Me too - too many dramatic props in the story and too much requirement to 'suspend disbelief'
Aditya Bondyopadhyay (Sent from my iPad or iPhone) On 28-Apr-2013, at 3:21 PM, jaan.bh...@gmail.com wrote: > I gave up half way. But I wonder how 23 year old today is a freelance journo > for last 9 years? And an entrance exam for masters in fashion designing?? > Never knew about that. > > Prasad > > Sent on my BlackBerry® from Vodafone > From: sourendra das <sourendra....@gmail.com> > Sender: gaybom...@yahoogroups.com > Date: Sun, 28 Apr 2013 07:17:27 +0530 > To: <gay_bombay@yahoogroups.com>; <gaybom...@yahoogroups.com> > ReplyTo: gaybom...@yahoogroups.com > Subject: [gb] A Shockingly Sad Tale !!! Needs Help !!! > > > A Shockingly Sad Tale !!! - > > I do not know where do I start from, today I had one of the most horrible > days in my life and reason, I am born gay. I am born in Calcutta and did my > higher studies from Bombay, and while growing up, I did writing, I wrote for > some of the big publications in India and abroad too. Then, I was in college > when I got inclined towards fashion journalism, as it happened by chance and > more so because fashion gave a new space, where people in my professional > field respected my sexual orientation. I covered Lakme Fashion Weeks and > Dubai Fashion Week, and somehow everywhere I went I felt fashion accepts gay > people more than any corporate field. I am 23 years old and like every other > guy, I do feel a need for love and companionship and acceptance from society. > Today, I feel like crying and relieving my heart, but I am pretending to be > strong, as I am a guy, I should be strong. Today, someone abused me because I > was gay. Well, long story short, I was homesick about Calcutta, living all > alone in Bombay. Bombay's luxuries life and all other glittery still made me > miss home. So, once I finished my Graduation in English Literature in 2012 > and did some writing work for a year, I felt I should do my Masters from > Calcutta and re-unite to my roots. I knew this guy called Sona Kunda, as he > used to come to the same gym where I worked out in Calcutta, many years back, > when I was in school. Just on Friday, I was cycling in morning as sometimes I > do, and this guy saw me in the road and started chatting up, and I have > realized that in Calcutta or cities where LGBTI awareness is less, people > somehow get attracted to me and never release that it is actually an > attraction, sometimes it's non-sexual. To be honest, being gay doesn't give > you friends, most people who come near me is because of the little success > that I have achieved being a freelance journalist since last 9 years, I took > the pen and I loved words as human beings dejected me calling me gay. So, I > gave my love for printed words. This guy, Sona too came near me for the same > reason, he apparently by purpose came close to me and told me about his plans > to live in Mumbai and how he needs Rs. 40 lakhs and he can even murder > someone for that, well I took that as a joke, because sometimes I have seen > (read rarely) that some young boys speak like that. Then, we indirectly > seeked my help as I have many connections in Bombay, and forced me to > exercise with him and took me to gym and latter to salon and his house. And I > am such a guy, I do not force straight men to have sex with me. I always go > for consensual sex and I do not believe in making gay people straight or > straight people gay, I respect people's identity. This guy, Sona told me that > how he is suppose to get Rs. 40 lakhs just by being with some women (Simran) > for 2 years, apparently I do not know what he meant by all that he said to > me. Well, sounds strange, but people somehow sometimes tell weird stuffs with > me, I hate it, as I am not a counsellor and not someone who can be dumped > with all emotional garbages of other people. I am not interested in him, not > had any sexual desire for him and neither did I have anything for him or > something. Well, he called me at 7.22pm on Friday when I was studying and I > did not answer his call, also as my cell was in silent mode, I had an > Entrance Exam for Masters in Fashion Management on Saturday noontime. I > messaged him around 10pm when I went for dinner "Studying dear. Take Care" > and did some revisions and slept to wake up early with fresh mind and study > again. Around 12am, some girl called me named Simran, and woke me up from my > sleep and started arguing that I sent Sona messages which she does not find > appropriate and she went on to be more abusive, I told her to mind her own > business and told her 12am is not the time to call any decent person and kept > the phone, trying to sleep. Well, latter that night Sona abused me in sms > that "I was not calling u it was by mistake i m not even interested to see u > as u r gay so try someonle else u defective peice u gay" and Simran wrote to > me "stop disturbing n who is defective u know better then me go n ask ur > parents baby. Now u will suffer u defective piece" Well, my simple msg > "Studying dear. Take Care" can be misinterpreted like this as a flirting > message, and well in Bombay in parties, we kiss friends, and we air kiss, and > we say - baby, sweetheart, honey, love, sweets, dear, and the likes to almost > anyone we meet in parties and in social gatherings. Well, then this guy Sona > harassed me by calling me so many times, I hardly answered his call, because > I had to concentrate on my studies. I finished Exam and then went for a > movie. I was returning home, when I was in a cycle rickshaw and this guy Sona > chased me, and put up a big fight in the street, calling me gay and what > not!!! He looks like a goon, and hardly speaks English or not really > educated. For a moment, I felt like hitting him back, as he held my bag, and > showing him that 'decency is not someone can take for granted' but I fought > up with battle of words. Well, when he could not win the argument, he abusing > me as 'gay' and what not, well is 'gay' an abuse??? And there were people all > around who made a circle, few said to stop, most of them were watching some > 'tamasha' of a gay guy being harassed out in the road. He had only one thing > to say, that since I was gay, I was a "defective piece" and all kinds of > meaningless abuses. It was horrible for me, as I feel people should respect > everyone irrespective of their sexual orientation. Sona kept on abusing me as > gay and went on, I had to tell my rickshaw guy to move on, whom Sona started > hitting. Sona almost hit me too, but I controlled myself in not hitting him > back. Well, am I to cry or to defend myself in a nation, where a gang of boys > rape a girl and she dies, and again someone rapes a 5-year old child, and > here in Calcutta a gay boy, who is respected and freelances for the most > circulated English daily in Eastern India, still goes through this kind of > harassment. And why??? Because I am Gay!!! Well, when I came home, I was > shattered, here I was in love with Calcutta and everyone in Calcutta tells > me, I should stay here and help in Calcutta's growth! Well, in this kind of > way, I will be insulted in the road and homo-phobic people will watch it like > 'tamasha' in the road. Once, I came home, I told my Mom, and she called Sona > and told him in clear Bengali, not to come to our house or contact us in > anyway, anytime anywhere. And I still feel like crying, this is the city > which I love and I feel like contributing and helping it grow and how I am > treated, or a nation as whole, how badly we are treated. I am a budding > journalist, I studied in English medium school, I lived in Bombay, born in a > metro like Calcutta, and I am exposed to many things that many other gay boys > in villages do not get, yet I am abused in public like this. Well, I feel > like dying, so often I feel suicidal for this reasons. Well, when will we get > our rights to live freely? Why do we Gay men have to take so much pain and > suffering? We are humans too, we deserve same human rights. I have tears in > my eyes, and somehow it is dried now. This is a gay boy's story in our big > democracy like India, a shockingly sad tale indeed!!! > > PS: I seek some professional help, can we take legal actions against this guy > for being so nasty??? Please help is needed! > Do write to me at edit.sou...@gmail.com, hello: (will send you), if > you are an NGO, especially based in Calcutta or anywhere in India, that will > be of great help, or please do forward my email to someone relevant or pass > any relevant information. Many Thanks. > > Sent on my BlackBerry® from Vodafone >
