Rahul, First, relax about the whole set of issues, just as much as you can. What you describe is not all that unusual.
Second, what you are describing are almost certainly psychological issues. However if you have the slightest concerns that your issues are primarily physiological (bodily), get a PHYSICAL check-up with a medical doctor. There should be NO discussion, investigation by him/her unless he/she is just curious or prying. Finally, start working now on finding a good psychologist or psychotherapist with training in dealing with a variety of people. Largely for your own peace of mind, you probably need to discuss these concerns . However, finding that qualified person is not easy. I received my training over many years in New York City. Now I live in a middle-sized American city (700 thousand). There is not one person here whom I have met in 10 years that I would refer you to. So, in short, I am suggesting what you need -- a good, well-trained psychotherapist, sophisticated and relaxed about dealing with gay people -- but that isn't going to be easy to find. Now, let's go back to the beginning: your concerns are not horrifying, extraordinary or rare. I understand that you are distressed, however. If you cannot find good psychotherapy, patience (with yourself), perhaps some more experience, writing to and for yourself may ease your concerns. I wish you good luck with all this. Scott PS: Good news/Bad news. All these issues, needs, wants, wishes and desires change over time. This is bad news only because it would be nice to have everything happily settled once and for all. That is not really how human beings work. S. On Oct 13, 2013, at 6:17 PM, rahulb...@yahoo.in wrote: > > This is related to masturbation, that when I masturbate ( till now i used to > do this thinking myself as top - fucking the othr prsn ) I dont really feel > that pleasure, but ejaculation occurs. Recently, I came to know of the > concept of bottom, and tried to think of myself as bottom during > masturbation, and felt a lil pleasure, but not immense. > So, i wanted to know if this normal or I should consult a doctor for not > experiencing orgasm. But then again, what if the doc asks me if i m gay or > smthng related? What should i say ? > Thanks. > >
