Sarah, I assume you're the list moderator? Then you should be able to decide who joins/stays on/posts on the list, and not have to resort to rants such at this one.
From, Emily On Mon, Dec 26, 2011 at 9:41 AM, Sarah Stierch <sarah.stie...@gmail.com>wrote: > > > And one think is discuss something - even when people have different > opinion than yours, another completely different is play the "*poor me, > nothing I do is good*" every time someone has a criticism against your > work. > > > I know I'm going to regret this, but, I can't be quiet anymore. > > I apologize to this ENTIRE mailing list for this drama erupting, and I'm > going to be sending gender gap-l into my "special file" until my heart rate > goes down. If people want to talk to me, they can find me on IRC or in > private email, today. > > --- > > Beria, you're passive aggressive bullying behavior has reached my level of > tolerance. I was going to email you privately, but, I decided against that, > as *you* like to publicly share your feelings with the community, > including specific people publicly. > > I have previously stated it, the last thing I wish to do is flood the list > with things that are of no benefit or interest to the community. If me > feeling bad about doing that is a bad then, so be it, I'm just sick and > tired of you repeatedly reminding me of how I'm doing something wrong, and > your declaration of "no one giving a fuck" about what you have to say > because you aren't a fellow or you aren't a staff member is equally passive > aggressive. I *worked* my butt off for this fellowship, and a fellowship > with WMF is something I have been exploring and trying to develop for > almost two years now. I'm honored to have it, beyond words. Anyone can > apply to be a fellow Beria, and passively declaring that no one cares about > you because you aren't paid, is just a mean slap in the face of everyone > who works hard at WMF and as volunteers. And remember, there are chapter > people who get paid to do their jobs, also. > > And this isn't just about me - you've done it to a lot of people. People I > consider friends and colleagues, and people I don't even know well. > > I'm tired of having to worry about the things I post on this list, > Internal-L, and Foundation-L, being to your disapproval. I'm also tired of > the "monthly wait for what Beria will say to someone that will cause drama > on a mailing list" situation. While I'm sure others greatly appreciate your > attitude, I don't, and others do not as well. Your behavior and bullying > (which is defined here: http://en.wiktionary.org/wiki/bullying) makes me > have little to desire to participate in mailing list discussions, and even > *less* desire to even consider attending a conference that you are > co-planning. Which is something, civility, we touch on here on this mailing > list, as being a deterrent for people wanting to participate in projects. > > This isn't the first time that I've actively, *and* publicly asked you to > stop behaving like this. > > The goal of this list isn't to just "talk" about wanting to make changes, > it's about making changes. Whether they are online, in any language > project, or offline, through outreach, programming, edit-a-thons, and > whatnot. I talk my talk and I walk my walk, and I know others here do too > (and I try to share those projects when they are brought to my attention). > And if me being "too sensitive" or me "caring too much" or "me being paid" > is a deterrent to us moving the meter (aka closing the gap) then I guess > I'm the worst representative for the gender gap movement. > > Beria - I'm not going to argue with you about this, I'm not going to ask > you to ever like me, be my bestfriend, or make an exception. I just want > you to stop bullying me, others, and learn how your words affects others > before you type them. I can handle criticism, when it's constructive. Not > when it's rude, insensitive, unprofessional and at times attacking. > > *and on another note, regarding language: > * > I only share what I know, and sadly, I have a permanent off switch in my > head that makes it tough for me to learn other languages (and no, Google > Translate does not count as quality accessibility), so when I can only talk > for English Wikipedia, I only post about English Wikipedia. We've never > called this list an English only list, I encourage people to participate in > all languages, so please, please please do. > > I apologize to everyone for making this a big freaking mess, but, I'm > tired of this. Absolutely tired of it. Tired to the point where I have had > trouble sleeping - I mean what the hell is that about? > > Sarah > > > -- > *Sarah Stierch* > *Wikimedia Foundation Community Fellow* > >>Support the sharing of free knowledge around the world: donate > >>today<http://wikimediafoundation.org/w/index.php?title=WMFJA085/en/US&utm_source=WMdonate&utm_medium=sidebar&utm_campaign=20110130SB003&language=en&uselang=en&country=US&referrer=http%3A%2F%2Fwikimediafoundation.org%2Fwiki%2FHome> > << > > _______________________________________________ > Gendergap mailing list > Gendergap@lists.wikimedia.org > https://lists.wikimedia.org/mailman/listinfo/gendergap > >
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