I don't have spare time for philosophical stuff (and it's not amongst my insterests anyway). But, you can always use some extension to block flash contents. Then you click only in the flashes you want to see. That will probably help to narrow down the scope of the problem. So, try adblock and flashblock. The extra ram they will suck probably worths the trouble.
It's obvious that if you can live without flash you should live without flash. But it is also obvious that if you need to visit a flash based site then you need to visit it, and there's no working alternative to the crap Adobe gifted all of us with. -- Jesús Guerrero Botella