I'm surprised this turned into a flame war, and in that light I'll only reply here on the single phrase that started it.
I wasn't very offended by the gay comment myself, but I do feel strongly that when such comments are made they need to be spoken about openly. I don't believe VirginSnow intended that remark as an insult towards me or my relationship with my partner, I think it was an honest mistake and I won't hold it against him if that's the end of it. It's not about blame, it's about keeping each other's use of potentially alienating language in check. I can say from personal experience, in the past I have felt unwelcome in groups where statements like this were made even by one member, especially in cases where I was new to a group. They tend to stand out against the rest of the message and be strongly remembered. I have heard similar sentiments from many others in the gay community as well as from women and racial minorities. This thread makes it clear where GNHLUG members stand on the issue. Thanks everyone for speaking up.
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