The journey ends . The last destination of journey will end soon.It does not matter whether you are married , singlre or widow etc. Ruminating over the past, evaluating the present with hope for bright future is a futile exercise , to grade your performance .It may be true that some have abruptly ended their journey of life midway while a few have reached the destination of their planed goals. It is possible that some are satisfied and content about fulfilling their tasks while many others lament and repent for failing to achieve the grade as exemplary,, model parents. Expectations and reality are always relative.When expectations are high and too steep, disappointments are natural consequences.As the parent the obligation towards their upbringing is duty and obligation and not a special favour.You cannot demand gratitude for your unending sacrifices .But remember if you have not cultivated or inculcated this value in them , then you need to accept the blame.As a rule every one takes goodness for granted. Over anticipating needs beyond requirements is not appreciated or valued. recognized .Excercise spontaneity with limits without giving the feeling of withdrawal or reservations The limits and greed for more is elastic even from your own as more is expected from those who provide much.Reaction and response is visible only when things are curtailed whether physical or emotional .It is but natural that when children have their own commitments and responsibility towards parents diminishes proportionally.No wonder parents are left to fend for themselves or confined to home care services.Those abroad for a living cannot be expected to relocate themselves or parents for economic reasons. The old age homes are thriving because of migrations of children.Financial aid does not replace commitment as also part of duty .Even those that are economically stable and comfortable the need for emotional bonding persists. The neglection of parents is not intentional but driven by circumstances of self promotion.The pitiful conditions of those abandoned without any considerations is sad. No parent ever curse for their miserable plight or demand attention for sacrifices in return. IT is a . sad commentary that they have passed away yearning to meet and see them. If you ever imagine that life of . parents with children provides security and insurance cover is a misnomer .On the contrary the life of unmarried bachelor's or spinster is better in comparison is subject of discussions.They have no regrets over pains of sacrifices and ingratitude.But loneliness specially in old age with medical emergencies are a great concern. There is non so intimate to cry on nor confine their woes.The plight is similar to those of widows, widower or abandoned parents. Unmarried or infertile couples have resorted to adoption as a security cover in old age.It has worked well in some cases as human traits of ingratitude are not limited to biological offsprings alone.Their respobsibilities and commitments , sacrifices were far less in comparison hence the heartaches of neglecting are not an issue The problem is that parents invest all their resources for the welfare of the family without a thought for themselves on a rainy day.The greedy , selfish ones want to milk the parents dry even when alive or are gainfully employed.Some are persecuted, coeherced to legally transfer or are even murdered for monetary gain.In the animal world the emphaty towards protecting selflessly offsprings to the extent of death is admirable.True there is no dependence as in humans in old age.Increasingly though parents are now a social responsibility for doles under social security schemes. It's not an isolated story that children care and concerns of aged parents do not sacrifice and are a comfort and physical and emotional support.Life without bother of children is no alternative of selfishness..The parents in particular must share the blame for not inculcating the value of gratitude and Indebtedness. It must be consciously and continously enjoined on them to express specifically the attitude of thankfulness both by words and deeds.Both the parents and children have taken for granted as an obligation and that is where the rot lies in human relationships. Parents will never be disappointed even for neglect and abandonment for inspiring them to always be grateful by example and enforcement
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