Human approach most welcomed It is most gratifying experience to make the life of others happy by being magnanimous in our attitudes , behaviour and actions. It is a gesture of selflessness towards the other being .First it is a personal sacrifice
A NEWLY wedded couple was in for a big surprise .Within months of happy, love marriage the husband was diagnosed with terminal stage of cancer and passed away within a year.The wife was heart broken , shattered and desperate .The sweet mother - in - law , inspite of her sorrow stood by her ,comforted her and convinced her of life ahead without being lonely .She motivated her to begin her life afresh .It was on one such occasion her husband good friend proposed to her.She was shocked and taken a back and refused politely .She confided with her mother in law, Who encouraged her to think very seriously ,forgetting her sentimental feelings about her own son .The decision was not very easy but both the families supported her to take the opportunity of a new beginning . Fortunately she had no biological issue and encumbrances .The society may not be very receptive to these actions, but finally it is their own life and they have the right to make their choice . They were married the mother in law giving her away at the church ceremony. It was a tearful, happy occasion for all In another similar example the newly married couple had grandiose plans for their future .Unfortunately within six months the husband passed away in an accident .The grief stricken mother in law was very supportive of her entering into a new life, as she had long years ahead. The daughter in law did not appreciate her idea and wrongly presumed that she wanted to get rid of her . After a year and constant prodding by mother in law she finally changed her mind and decided to share the rest of her life with her husband friend, who was most willing to be her life partner. Initially there was fierce opposition from girls family, but mother in law stood like a rock for her and persuaded her to go ahead, which she finally did .Both the husbands were bachelor .As of today they are a fine adjusting couple living happily together with their families They maintain friendly and cordial relations with their mother in laws, who made a difference to them THE third example the husband expired living a young bride and a child. The girls parents were a strong force of motivation but the mother in law was reluctant and un supporting . The selfish reason being her own security, disguised as concern for the child and family inheritance . The husband was also a bachelor . In all the 3 examples they have children of their own and are living a harmonious life without any stigma or caring for social disapproval How wonderful that the society is changing it's hard attitudes and there is a new horizon of appreciation ,accommodation, acceptance of reality .The maximum support must come from both the parents without being selfish about own security, wealth and inheritance issues . These examples are really inspirational agaisnt aged old traditions and customs which offer a new ray of hope and promise in the lives of unfortunate widows. The admiration for mother in laws, thinking out of box and obliquely is rare as their memories of sons cannot be dismissed MOTHER IN LAWS ARE NO MORE SWEET AND SOUR, DEVILS OR CONSIDERED HINDRANCES IN THE LIVES OF DAUGHTER IN LAWS NELSON LOPES Chinchinim Human approach most welcomed It is most gratifying experience to make the life of others happy by being magnanimous in our attitudes , behaviour and actions. It is a gesture of selflessness towards the other being .First it is a personal sacrifice A NEWLY wedded couple was in for a big surprise .Within months of happy, love marriage the husband was diagnosed with terminal stage of cancer and passed away within a year.The wife was heart broken , shattered and desperate .The sweet mother - in - law , inspite of her sorrow stood by her ,comforted her and convinced her of life ahead without being lonely .She motivated her to begin her life afresh .It was on one such occasion her husband good friend proposed to her.She was shocked and taken a back and refused politely .She confided with her mother in law, Who encouraged her to think very seriously ,forgetting her sentimental feelings about her own son .The decision was not very easy but both the families supported her to take the opportunity of a new beginning . Fortunately she had no biological issue and encumbrances .The society may not be very receptive to these actions, but finally it is their own life and they have the right to make their choice . They were married the mother in law giving her away at the church ceremony. It was a tearful, happy occasion for all In another similar example the newly married couple had grandiose plans for their future .Unfortunately within six months the husband passed away in an accident .The grief stricken mother in law was very supportive of her entering into a new life, as she had long years ahead. The daughter in law did not appreciate her idea and wrongly presumed that she wanted to get rid of her . After a year and constant prodding by mother in law she finally changed her mind and decided to share the rest of her life with her husband friend, who was most willing to be her life partner. Initially there was fierce opposition from girls family, but mother in law stood like a rock for her and persuaded her to go ahead, which she finally did .Both the husbands were bachelor .As of today they are a fine adjusting couple living happily together with their families They maintain friendly and cordial relations with their mother in laws, who made a difference to them THE third example the husband expired living a young bride and a child. The girls parents were a strong force of motivation but the mother in law was reluctant and un supporting . The selfish reason being her own security, disguised as concern for the child and family inheritance . The husband was also a bachelor . In all the 3 examples they have children of their own and are living a harmonious life without any stigma or caring for social disapproval How wonderful that the society is changing it's hard attitudes and there is a new horizon of appreciation ,accommodation, acceptance of reality .The maximum support must come from both the parents without being selfish about own security, wealth and inheritance issues . These examples are really inspirational agaisnt aged old traditions and customs which offer a new ray of hope and promise in the lives of unfortunate widows. The admiration for mother in laws, thinking out of box and obliquely is rare as their memories of sons cannot be dismissed MOTHER IN LAWS ARE NO MORE SWEET AND SOUR, DEVILS OR CONSIDERED HINDRANCES IN THE LIVES OF DAUGHTER IN LAWS NELSON LOPES Chinchinim Nelson Lopes Chinchinim https://lopesnelsonnat.wordpress.com
