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Practically everything in Goa has witnessed a dramatic change over the past
half century - some things for better; some for worse. Joint-families do
not exist anymore each married family member lives separately.
There was a time parents were respected and cared for by children until they
breathed their last. But that love, respect and care are no more
nowadays, when parents become old, they are dumped in old-age homes where
they breathe their last and carry the photo of their care-takers in their
eyes instead of their beloved ones.
Until a couple of decades ago, 'dowry' was a pest in Goa but it is almost
eradicated now except in the interior pockets of the state. Thank God for
the art of 'love', most Goan boys and girls fall in love and get married
rather than go for "soiriken kazar" (arranged marriage) which usually
introduced 'dowry' into the arrangements.
Besides dowry, we also had "ghor-zanvoim" system, which was quite common in
the days of yore. While arranging dowry for a girl was a Herculean task for
most Goans then, some well-to-do families who had only one female child were
not only prepared to give unlimited dowry to anyone marrying their daughter
but they were also willing to transfer their house, property and wealth in
their son-in-law's name, but with a condition he had to leave his parents
and home and move into his in-law's residence.
For many, it was a golden opportunity which they did not want to pass they
grabbed it and became slaves of their in-laws! It worked fine with most,
especially with those who didn't have a job, but there were others who
couldn't do without their parents and original home. So, they gave up the
luxury for parents' love and returned home.
In the following lyrics, the late Jacinto Vaz sings the song as a victim of
dowry. He beats up his parents and shifts to his in-law's place but, as
fate would have it, he is driven away and is forced to live on the streets.
In a paralytic condition, he regrets his action and wishes to return home
but the door is closed for him. He now realizes the importance of his
parents, who, unlike his wife, stood by him at all times.
The last two lines of the song convey a strong message:
Doth ghetlear tuvem bailechem aikochem poddtta
(If you receive dowry, you have to listen to your wife)
Pai-maimcher bodollear bhava oxem ghoddtta
(This is what happens if you turn against your parents)
Here is one of the oldest lyrics of the song DOTH GHETLEAR composed and
sung by the late Jacinto Vaz:
I
Pai-mainchea xirapanchem ghevn bonvtam pensanv
Konnui mhaka vollkota paichem sanglear nanv
Maim-paik marun mavoddea ghelom hanv
Mavoddeai danvddailo, borem tanchem zanv
Chorus
Oso hanv zalam mhunnon bailui dhinam thar
Kitem Deva korum hanv konnamchoi ghetam mar
Ghara voitolo mhuttlear ugttem nam mhaka dar
Dusre vatten hath dhorleat hathink zavn ar
II
Soro dhilo amigank voilean sardinham
Atam mhaka tech amig zapuch dhinam
Xemboranim amigank pathielom rinnam
Bostea paimanim bonvtam paimank poddleant khinnam
Chorus
Lhan astannam maim sodanch kori apurbai
Duddu aslear hathin soireank soire zai
Mojea baxen zalear bailekui tuji nosai
Hem mhaka sodanch sangtalo mozo pai
III
Sonvsaran maim-pai von nam bhava konn
Hem mhaka atam sogllem ailem kovon
Mavoddea dis sarlet sopear lovon
Hanv oso zalam mhunn bail gheli povon
Chorus
Kitleo avoieo aiz dukham gollovn roddttat
Duens nastannam sintimentaninch mortat
Doth ghetlear tuvem bailechem aikochem poddtta
Pai-maimcher bodollear bhava oxem ghoddtta
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