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Visit http://www.garcabranca.com for details/booking/confirmation. ------------------------------------------------------------------------ This is a sad story, repeated time and again all over the sub-continent. It is indeed quite unacceptable for sons & daughters who were raised by their parents, to abandon them at this crucial time in their lives. It is sad also when the daughter, when married is to live with her in-laws but if the in-laws are good, they will allow visits to & from her family on a regular basis, but it is more often than not that the daughter-in-law is so busy with doing mother-in-law's bidding & having children which she has to look after, that there is no time to see her own parents for months, even years on end. Sad indeed but that is the way of life when married in most countries who practice this way of life. It helps one parent out, the boy's parents of course, because the male is prized highly and to have a son or two sons is better than having a daughter or two daughters. Not only for the dowry system to work (illegal) but to ensure she is treated well in her new home. In many many cases, the girl if she is not accepted by the family for whatever reason (usually through jealousy of the mother-in-law or one of the boy's family members), the poor girl has an accident. This usually happens in the kitchen where her sari is set on fire with hot oil & a match, or if the boy can be pursuaded, by the boy himself by his own mother or father. The stories from outlying villages (especially in Pakistan, not so much in Goa or the larger towns & cities in India), but also it happens here in England. IT WAS AN ACCIDENT they say & all is ok. They got the dowry, now to re-marry & start the process all over again. However I digress. If this unfortunate 72-year old man who has 3 sons got married, lived & worked in Goa, this would not have happened, one of the sons would have stayed with his parents or if the house(s) were big enough or the land big enough, they would have all built their homes nearby & this man with his wife would not be left destitute like this, having to rely on Rs 750 per month to feed clothe & take care of two of them. You may argue some people have much less to live on, but obviously the parents helped these lads to get to another country, to work & earn good money. But its also reasonable to assume they were not taught much in the way of family values, earlier on in their lives. I am just assuming of this of course but if they WERE taught values they would have send regular monies to their parents to help them in their time of need. However some people when they find themselves awash with the lucre, find that the LOVE of MONEY has taken them over, forgetting the things they were taught, forgetting the sacrifices families make for their offspring to do better than they did with their lives. Yes, the LOVE of money again, is the root of all that is evil in this case. John Monteiro