Samir, While it lasts, considering divorce anathema is not such a bad thing.
Look at the example of western countries where the divorce rate is very high. Children from the marriage pay a very high price for a broken home. Of course the general wisdom is that children are much more understanding than they are given credit for - meaning that they would rather their parents separate than have constant unpleasantness in the home. But this argument I think is a defence used by the proponents of divorce. Whether you like it or not, on balance, children are more adversely affected by the separation of their parents than not. What is the price they pay? Emotional instability Susceptibility to mental dysfunctions More likelihood of drug addictions Higher chances of divorce in their own adult lives Little regard for relatives or family. In addition to this, as divorce becomes more acceptable, the reasons for this extreme step become flimsier. A little marital argument becomes grounds for throwing the towel in. I am not a fan of remaining in the marriage at any cost. There are some good reasons for divorce. Violence, exploitation, incompatibility, constant disrespect, are some of these. All I am saying is that unfettering traditional ties that still have relevance in today's world, should be considered after thinking not once ot twice but ten, twenty or a hundred times. And that too only after counselling and professional advice. My opinions are merely from observing a lifetime of situations and a little reading. Perhaps sociologists on Goanet will have something more formal to say. Roland. -- Roland Francis http://roland-torontogoan.blogspot.com +1 (416) 453.3371 On Fri, May 29, 2009 at 1:17 PM, Samir Kelekar <samir_kele...@yahoo.com> wrote: > One of my mentors called marriage as an institution for copulation. Though > I may not agree with him fully, it is important to bust the myth about > the institution of marriage especially in places like Goa where divorce > is considered anathema.