After going through the second part of your message (appended below) I recollected the importance of a sentence, "When in Rome, Do as the Romans Do." Behaving this way, avoids unwanted conflicts or arguments that could arise along the way. In extreme cases, people who act otherwise usually ends up doing acts that are otherwise deemed as insulting or offensive to the country's practices and beliefs. And your present issue (see second part of your appended message) is exactly this! To take the side of nonresident Goan, some nonresident Goans might even confuse you asking "From where Goans inherited a 'custom' of 'wearing a suit' for weddings?
To such persons, ask counter question 'Is it okay for you if bride-groom, his father and all other invitees to your family wedding in Goa comes in shorts and ties (or no ties?' And when you ask such counter questions they will fall in line with "When in Rome, Do as the Romans Do." Best regards, U. G. Barad On Thu, 28 Mar 2013 Ana Maria Fernandes amferns_n...@hotmail.com wrote: .... We goans are not beggars. Once at a wedding a goanese canadian came in short pant and tea shirt and as he knew us sat at our table. He was condemming goa right and left and praising his country canada . I had come for a wedding to enjoy and my husband who is a boli bala was listening to his gianns. I told him straight away. We are goans born and bred in Goa and know how to keep ourselve alive. We do not need you or your help. we have fields which will give us enough xhit koddi and sea where we will get our fish. When you do not come there will be peace. If you want to come enjoy our Goa as it is. My husband has come for a wedding wearing a suit and you have come with a short pant. You do not know to respect our customs