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[beritamalaysia] Star : Sex and the single Singapore girl
Date:
Sun, 30 Apr 2000 16:07:45 +0800
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>From The Sunday Star
30th April 2000
Sex and the single Singapore girl
Insight Down South By Seah Chiang Nee
WITH their youths now exposed to the new online world, Singaporeans
are worried about a worsening of social norms, especially in teenage
pregnancies.
On an average day, four teenagers here are checking into hospitals and
clinics for abortion.
Smoking among youngsters is on the rise, and so is--despite a
ban--drinking. Only hard drugs are effectively being reduced through
tough enforcement.
Last year, Singaporeans were shocked by a spate of newborn babies
abandoned in public places by their teenage parents. Some were thrown
into rubbish dumps.
Seven were reported in 1999, compared to three the previous year.
The number of unwed teens--aged between 15 and 19--seeking abortions
has dropped slightly but remains high. There were 1,465 of them in
1996. Last year, 1,390 or 10% of abortions were performed on those
aged below 20.
The rising permissiveness is worrying parents. A recent survey of 800
people aged 15 to 64 ranked promiscuity second only to drug abuse as
top social evils.
Another indicator is the increasing number of young girls infected
with sexually-transmitted diseases over the past four years. It had
been rising steadily from 118 in 1996 to 177 last year.
Singapore, a small international city which stands on the crossroads
of East and West, is more vulnerable to outside influence than most of
its neighbours.
Nearly eight million tourists visit the city yearly and 150,000
Singaporeans are studying or working abroad.
Exposure to outside influences is not the sole cause of any decline in
juvenile values. A bigger reason is parental neglect in a
materialistic, high-pressure environment.
However, Senior Minister Lee Kuan Yew noted last year how Singaporeans
were picking up social norms from abroad at startling speed.
Speaking to international news editors in Davos, Switzerland, he
recounted how it used to be considered unusual for a man to put his
arm around a woman in public.
"Now it is part of the landscape," he said. "Maybe people like me are
fuddy-duddies."
To put the issue into perspective, the majority of Singaporean youths
are conservative and in good moral stead, contrary to appearances.
Earlier this year, the Singapore Planned Parenthood Association
conducted a survey on the sexual mores of 2,369 youths, aged between
13 and 21.
Two out of five admitted to dating, half of them from as young as 13
or 14. A full seven out of 10 did not approve of pre-marital sex.
Only 85 of the total or 4%--a third of them girls--said they had had
sex, with nearly half from the ages of 14 or 15.
Why did they do it? Some 36.5% put it to "curiosity" while another 31%
said they felt good.
"This is a conservative profile, given the extent of youngsters'
exposure to sexually-explicit information on the Internet and
sexually-charged messages elsewhere in the media," a newspaper
editorial commented.
The bad news is that many teens are turning to dirty movies or friends
for sex education--not their parents or teachers.
In a quick survey, about three-quarters of about 40 youths told a
newspaper they were comfortable with some public display of affection.
But they said this should not go beyond an occasional hug, an arm
around the waist and a quick peck on the cheek.
Anything more intimate--including kissing, touching the buttocks or
breast--is unacceptable, they said.
According to condom-maker Durex, young Singaporeans aged 16 to 21 have
sex 63 times a year, the lowest frequency of 14 countries surveyed. In
comparison, British youths lead with 133 encounters annually.
About 42% of young Singaporeans say they will wait for their wedding
day before having sex. More conservative are Malaysians (48%) and
Taiwanese (43%).
The average age when Singapore youths lose their virginity is 15.9
years, the international average, compared to 17.7 years for
Malaysians.
But some juvenile advisors, including gynaecologist Dr Lim Su Min, are
pessimistic.
Explaining the worsening situation, Dr Lim said: "These days, young
people have more freedom, money and time to themselves ... and less
parental guidance."
She told of a letter from an 18-year-old girl who declared that she
had been having sex with her colleague over the past three months.
"It was not really sex. Penetration was not deep," the girl said,
explaining that she did not want to become pregnant. She contracted
HIV.
Many of the letters are from teenage girls who wrote about their
sexual escapades, asking for advice on preventing pregnancy.
Some teens indulged in sex from as young as 14 because of pressure
from their boyfriends. "I had to do it because he threatened to dump
me," was a regular reason.
Where will all this lead to? "In the worst-case scenario, society will
go down the tubes," said Dr Lim. It would undermine the institution of
marriage, lead to broken families, and children from these families
would continue to perpetuate the trend.
What is the solution? "Sex education," said Dr Lim. "We need to let
the children know the implications of their actions."
Although graded among the world's best in mathematics and science,
Singapore students are likely to score poorly if they are tested on
sex.
An Aunt Agony columnist said that many of the sex questions she
received ranged from the painfully ignorant to the comical.
"Can I get pregnant if I lie fully-clothed in bed with a boy?" asked a
girl. Another wanted to know if she could have a baby from oral sex,
adding: "By the way, what is oral sex?"
Surveys show that one-third of youths are "not sure" about sexual
diseases, AIDS or the use of condoms.
Currently, there is no specific sex education. In primary schools, it
is taught as part of science, civics and moral education.
Secondary school students are taught human reproduction, abortion,
sexual diseases, premarital sex and contraception, but as part of
civics and moral education.
All this will soon change. The government is finalising a programme to
teach not only sexual behaviour but also family life and sex
healthcare.
If it doesn't, the kids may turn to porno websites for help--to the
regret of all.
Seah Chiang Nee is a freelance writer and the former editor of
Singapore Monitor
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