No, of course not. It's called having a soft heart. Anything you think of will be appropriate, truly. And as his illness progresses, he may appreciate an occassional phone call more even than flowers. I remember when my kids were in high school, one of the other moms was dying of cancer. I didn't know her, but I went to one of the girls' basketball games and she was sitting completely alone. I think (just like me) no one knew what to say or how to treat her. I gritted my teeth and went to sit with her. We didn't talk about her illness or anything sensitive, just the girls and their game. She seemed glad to be treated as if she were not dying, at least for an evening. Nancy
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