David Vaughan wrote/ schreef:

> Yesterday, I made an egregious blunder through being very careless in
> reading a post. Scott and Ken promptly told me so and I posted my
> mortified recognition of my mistake.
> 
> This morning I woke to find that another person wrote long after the
> above posts. He recognised the nature of my mistake yet still chose to
> rub my nose in it. I became angry and upset and sent an intemperate
> response about his delay.
> 
> I apologise for cluttering the list with writing of that nature, and
> will withdraw for a while.
At this point, I think I also need to apologise, because this problems are
partly also there because of my childishness.

At this place we have to make a separation between the cause of an effect
and the responsible of an effect. In this case the cause of the effect (my
nose-rubbing) was a bad feeling, caused by a sentence like:
> Sjoerd, Where do you get this idea?
I can't affect feelings, so I am not responsible for that, but I *am*
responsible for my choices. And, as you pointed out (and you are very right
about that), it *was* my choice to rub your nose in it again, even *after* I
read Scott and Ken's posts (can you believe...).

I'm sorry.

Having said this, I think we both learned something here, but I also think
it is no good to withdraw, because at least I accepted your apologies, and
if you withdraw, I (and I hope *we*) will miss you here, and not because of
your contributions, but because of your person.

> regards
> David
Regards, / Groeten,
Sjoerd

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