The dowry system is one of economical malpractice borrowed from other society. Islam has no connection with such malpractice as well at time of Rasoolullah (SA) none of people practice this social evil that why we couldn't find exact verdicts in Qur'an or Sunna regard dowry system.
The dowry system we can find only in India from where there was no Madhabi Imams so we can't find any statement about dowry in their books also. All who live in India either who suffer from or benefit regardless their cast and faith count dowry system as a social evil which should be eliminated from the society, in this regard govt. also ruled against dowry. So Islam the only clearly handled the subejct "wealth" and gave accurate guidance how to earn and how to spend and it's consequence in this world and hear after life than any ideology or faith which failed to do so. Here the duty of Muslim scholar is educate people about this social evil than receiving commission of this "un-holly" money. By giving proper education for our girls and clear guidance based on Islamic concept of life will help us to lead decent and noble life where nobody need to think about such kind of money through dowry system. This is my experience in my family where nobody needed to gave dowry for their girls as well none received. Allah will open the door in front of us and our life will more blessed than who sleep on piles of currency and gold This is the incident I want to share with you. One day a strange elder lady came to my house and had long discussion with my mother. When she left I asked my mother who is she. Mother replied she also don't know but she came to ask about one girl who fell in love with one of her relative. She wants to know whether her parent agrees for a marriage with the boy belongs to her without demanding dowry or any kind of mamools. She worried about the boy falling sin because he and his family belong to religious ethics. My mother gave an overall picture about this family and their financial situation which never allow a nearest marriage. They totally broken because of dowry system more over there was a marriage of her elder sister in nearest past with demanded dowry. Thinking for the goodness of each family my mother guided her to another family who are very closest with this girl and her family. When this family informed about the wish of boy to the family of girl, parents of girl replied "We are not ready to give our kids to Muja, Jama and drunkard" In handling this critical situation very soon they borrowed huge amount of money which such a family can't assume and arranged marriage with one as the parent decided. I have confusion: Same mahall president is the president of cooperative bank also. If he is ready to help his people in getting credit from his bank then who are here the culprit? Musliar who lead Iamamth in said Juma Masjid and teach kids about the horrible punishment who deal with interest which counted one of among "sabul moobiqath"? Or who try to arrange financial aid from the bank for life of a girl? Or who are not ready to respect the deen of others? Or who wait such family to be punished by dowry? 2009/2/8 Shihabudden, K K <[email protected]> > Yes my brother what you told is right. So please find the solution for > that and Insha-Allah we all can join together *to fight against dowry* > !!!!!!~! > > > ------------------------------ > > *From:* [email protected] [mailto: > [email protected]] *On Behalf Of *Shahid Aboobacker > *Sent:* Sunday, February 08, 2009 12:43 PM > *To:* Prathiba Sundaram > *Cc:* [email protected] > *Subject:* {IIG} Re: Against Dowry > > > > Assalamu alaykum > > > I purposefully put this question. > > > This was my true experience here in Dubai. > I went in a cab from Barsha to Satwa last month. I spoke to the Cab driver > during the travel. Since, he was a senior person (Late 50s), I enquired his > background. This muslim brother comes from Ottapalam, he's been living here > for 30 years, I asked him why? Breed his family, who was always back home. > I told him, he doesn't need to be here to do that. > He told me he's got 2 daughters. why he must be here. He needs to marry > them off properly. what is that marriage. He needs to give his daughters > the basics of marriage, so that they are accepted in their new homes. How > can you do that. *By paying dowry, by giving gold!!* > I told him to find a suitable boy who is ready to accept the girl, without > this pre-requisite. > He said, he searched and found none. > > Is this the Islamic culture? > > HOW DO WE TAKE THIS FORWARD? > > We need to join together to annul this evil. We need to educate atleast the > male youth to stay away from this, and state this is un-islamic > and it will cause misery in his life and the here-after. > > If we could collect the proofs and start forwarding the compiled one to all > our younger brothers and their family, it might atleast save one family from > misery, and save them from the wrath. > > This could be a humble starting. > May Allah bless our aims > > Shahid > > > 2009/2/7 Prathiba Sundaram <[email protected]> > > ഇസ്ലാം സത്യമാണു. ശരിയാണു. നന്മയാണു. പക്ഷെ, ഇസ്ലാമിനെ നശിപ്പിക്കാൻ > ശ്രമിക്കുന്നവർ മുല്ല വേഷത്തിൽ കറങി നടക്കുന്നുണ്ട്. അവരെ തിരിച്ചറിയുക. > > > > സ്ത്രീധനം ഇസ്ലാമിലില്ല. അതു വിവാഹം അസാധുവക്കുന്നു. > > > > *Chapter One > * > Do you agree the following or not? > > Mohammed bought fifty rupees from Abdullah and return back two rupees. We > will say Mohammed bought forty-eight rupees from Abdullah. That is the > truth. If anyone says Mohammed paid two rupees to Abdullah, it is nothing > but a fabricated lie. > > Therefore, you have to agree the following. > > Abdullah has a daughter and Mohammed demands and bought 50 Gold Coins to > marry her. Mohammed pays two Gold Coins as Mah'r. Truly, we have to say > Mohammed bought 48 Gold coins. That is the truth. If anyone says Mohammed > paid two Gold Coins as Mah'r, it is nothing but a fabricated lie. > > Moreover, the Muslims believe that no one could eyewash Allah. > > Conclusion: It is very clear the dowry related marriage never pays the > Mah'r, which is a compulsory obligation to become marriage legitimate > according to Islam. Most of the Keralite Muslims' marriages are not valid > due to this. Of course, the most of the Keralite Muslims' are born out of > this illegitimate marriage. > > *Chapter Two > * > Who you are? > > Have you bought dowry? You ask your father. If his answer is in > affirmative it means your mother is a prostitute, your father an adulterer > and you are a bastard. > > Therefore, the dowry buyer is an adulterer, his concubine a prostitute and > their children bastards. > > The Remedy > > By closing your own eyes, the situation will not change. Do not keep your > head in the Sand by shame. Repay the dowry back, repent to Allah and marry > according the Islamic way, is the only remedy. > > *Chapter Three > * > Common Civil code is better (than Islamic way of marriage) to those who > prefer dowry. > > Marriage is the permission from the society to live as couples. You have > the right to marry according to your wish. If you wish to buy dowry you can. > Nevertheless, in the Islamic way you cannot, because you have to pay > compulsory Mahr to the bride. Therefore, it is better to adopt any other > method. Do not argue for Islam and act un-Islamic same time. That is what > our Mullas, who are supporting dowry system, practicing. > > > > > > > ------------------------------ > > *From:* Shahid Aboobacker <[email protected]> > *To:* [email protected] > *Sent:* Thursday, February 5, 2009 11:28:04 PM > *Subject:* {IIG} Against Dowry > > > > Assalamu Alaykum > > Anyone has the islamic perspectives on the dowry tradition? Please, > substantiate with examples from Quran and hadith. > > > The new version from "Dowry giving" parents are that they are giving all > they have to their loved ones. and by "Dowry accepting" youngsters is that > we didnt force. They only gave us. > > I am sure as a group, we can all give proper advice to the youth to prevent > this tradition to continue. > Our tradition or paths to be followed is Quran & hadith only. > > Shahid > > > > > > > > ------------------------------ > The contents of this email, including all related responses, files and > attachments transmitted with it (collectively referred to as "this Email"), > are intended solely for the use of the individual/entity to whom/which they > are addressed, and may contain confidential and/or legally privileged > information. This Email may not be disclosed or forwarded to anyone else > without authorization from the originator of this Email. If you have > received this Email in error, please notify the sender immediately and > delete all copies from your system. Please note that the views or opinions > presented in this Email are those of the author and may not necessarily > represent those of Saudi Aramco. 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