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Dear Brothers and Sisters
in Islam Assalaam Alaikum, I would like to add an
incidence of a "Khul" which will surely give the conditions in which
it is acceptable. Once upon a time a case
of "Khul" came to a Qazi. Qazi heard the full plea of the woman and
in front of all the witnesses he asked the lady to sleep in a yard where some
bufellows and other animals were there with unclean floor and all mosquitos
etc. The lady accepted and spent the night in the yard. Next day the lady
was brought to the Qazi and Qazi asked her how did you spent your night. She
said I have slept peacefully after so many days. Then the Qazi arranged for
"Khul" saying that the lady is really suffering with this man who
should be freed. My question is if a man
is good natured, caring then why should a woman need "Khul"? According
to my knowledge the presence of witnesses at the time of marriage is necessary
in any case of a divorce or a khul. There are ways to correct yourself if you
feel that you will not be able to fulfill your duties as a wife. If you just
like to be a liberal and free woman then you know that you will end yourself as
a public property and not a respected wife of one person. Every individual must
check his/her own heart as to what he/she wants and what is the reason for
that? I am astonished that even after knowing the negative aspect of a
divorce/khul you have terminated your marriage. I want to scribble a verse of
the noble Qura'an here which says about itself "UZILLU BEHEE KASEERANW WA
YAHDEE BEHEE KASEERA" many people will be deviated from it and many people
will get the guidance. Lastly we are moving
towards the day of judgement so women's liberation is not an unexpected matter.
There are more signs to come before the day of judgement take its place. May Allah guide us to the
right path Aameen. Ghaziuddin From: khul`, evil will befall you and you will
be subject to misery in this world until your death." Upon hearing this in
my situation, I asked myself, "Then how come the Prophet allowed a woman
to divorce merely for disliking her husband?" (referring to Barira's
case). I decided to research in more detail and I found that many Islamic
scholars — Dhahabi, Abu Al-Albani and others — rated the above
hadith as weak (www.dorar.net). Even when provided with
reasonable explanations regarding this hadith, long-held misinterpretations
were held onto steadfastly, leaving me in complete frustration with regard to
my own dilemma. khul` as I did not get any support from my
family; they are not able to understand my problem. They feared their honor
would be shattered in the society if I took khul`.
This forced me to seek guidance and help from the masjid." She added,
"But the masjid imam said he will not be able to help me without my
parents' consent." Holy quran YAHOO! GROUPS LINKS
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