--- On Sun, 8/3/08, muslimconverts.com wrote:
Assalamu alaykum I need help to find support for my situation. I married my husband june 16th, 2007 and we have a baby who is 5 months old now and in foster care. He went in foster care because I got very depressed after the birth and could not take care of him. They diagnosed me as manic depressive. My husband already said he divorced me and he has been living separately since may. My husband says he hates marriage and never wants to marry again because our marriage was so rocky. I was not taking medication until after the birth of our baby so I can understand where he is coming from, still it is rash that he decided to divorce instead of giving me a chance to redeem myself and live with him again now that I am on medication and feeling better. There is nothing I can do or say to change his mind though...he has declared many times that he does not want to live with me. He wants to take our baby to kuwait and leave it with his mother because he works fulltime and can not be there for him. I am from canada and I am not invited to go to kuwait with his family. I am going back to canada next week and the baby will be staying with the foster family (a nice german couple) until the court decides which parent gets custody of the baby. I really need support out there from any who has been through a custody battle like this. salam alaykum lisa grant As salamu alaikum, May AllaH heal you for this illness. It is important to take you medication .Obviously during pregancy it may be probalamatic. Next time you can inshaAllah marry an undertanding brother. It is best to tell right from teh beginning that you have this illness before the Nikkah is done. As for you child if the famaily are not Muslim then they should not be looking after the child. It would be better for your mother in law to look after the child. Than some kaffir famaily. May Allah give you a good Islamic husband and help you through these difficult times. lso this is a test for you so be patient. Make sure you take your medication and InshaAllah you will become better now. If you are in the UK then I know a brother who has severe mental illness and he said his psyciatrist is Muslim and very good and maybe I can try and get the number. he actaully said he stopped taking the medicine and he was in an very bad state, But he said his wife has been very udnerstand and been good to him. And no doubt that will be a form of ajjar for her. Hwoever not every has teh skills to deal with a spounce that has severe depression problems. Also majority of converts dont marry the right kind of Muslim. Some sisters do not know that there is a spectrum of Muslims. Some Muslims good and some not so good. Others converts like to hear advive but are not willing to actually take heed. In past i have sepent maybe hundred or hundred of housrs wrieting emails and advicing at leangth. Yet teh sisters are not willing to take heed. Becaus etehy think tehy know best when it comes to marraige and they dont wnat to listen. Others brotehsr who help converts have told me the same. So it is up to the convert sister or brother to read on www.muslimconverts. com about marriage Take care walaikum salam AbuUbaida subject Subject: Re: Wishing to become Muslim (Andr) assalamu alaykum do not be afraid this would be the best decision in your life. I converted about 2 years ago and I was all alone too. but I managed to find a couple friends to get by on. Allah swt will not leave you alone. When you convert then he will reward you, like he did me, with a few friends. it is good that you are surrounded by christians, at least they are faithful and not pagans who do worse haram things. MAy allah swt bless you with an easy transition into the faith. Lisa
