Considering that it's the one great party you can't make (but will probably pay for, at least figuratively), when everybody's talking about what a great so-and-so you were. . .well, Neil Young's _Arc_ 30+ minutes of feedback, real loud.
Unless, of course, there's the chance of a rehearsal dinner. Denny NP: Lee Konitz, "Alone together" "The American public wants tragedy with a happy ending." --Wm. Dean Howells