If I were making a funeral soundtrack, my top choice would be Sweet Bird. It makes quite a statement about the brevity of life, and its preciousness. It might inspire some of the mourners to make some changes or go out and do something they had been putting off, before their turn in the casket came.
Another song I would choose is My Best to You from TTT. I know Joni did not write it, but the way in which she sings it is like a benediction. I would play it at the end of the service. It is like Joni is singing to everyone, "Go in Peace". Another possible choice would be Songs to Aging Children. That song was used in a funeral scene in Alice's Restaurant. Joni's performance of it has an other worldly sound. I think everyone should plan their own funeral in advance. I keep trying to talk my husband into pre-buying a plot, so we can go there for picnics before the fact, and kind of get used to it, but that is too bizarre for him. Regards, Ruth from Richmond