Hello, Nice one. But when i got to the Zambian part, i really realized that maybe this is not so complete. Everyone wants a good life. Lets assume Zimbabwe was not run by a tyrant like Mugabe, what do you think would happen? The outcome for the people would have been different (hopefully not worse). Who knows?
Ok, let me make it simple. Lets say you have two individuals with exactly same drive, values, dreams etc (Lets say they were cloned. lol). They both believe in being in control of their lives. One lives in the a developed country where u even get free quality education up to tertiary level (i hear one of those Scandinavian countrys do that). Do you think they would come out the same? I don't know what your answer is but mine is "No". ANything could go wrong but in a large sample, i would favour the guy in the Scandinavian country where the Government offers such an opportunity. I don't know how you define wealth. maybe that would help. But really being in control is half of the solution. Good / sincere & people centred leadership (which leads to low level of corruption and selfishness) is the other part of the equation. That's my take. I agree with you all the way that we have to keep striving for success but there are external factors which make it tougher for some no matter how they try. Its like saying the high level of unemployment in the country is totally the fault of the unemployed. Easy to say when you are on the employed side. Lets pray we don't find ourselves on that side. They say we should play the cards life throws at us. People hate to admit it but there is a bit of luck in what cards we are dealt in life. I am sure many of us don play kashi before. But surely, you have to be prepared and keep hoping to be in the right place at the right time. Nice article all the same. The message is we keep trying to do what is right while we strive for a good life. No be controversy oh. I agree that some people are puppets of their life. keep em coming bro. Taiwo 92 "There is only one success - to be able to spend your life in your own way." - Christopher Morley " He who hesitates is lost. - Proverb" ----- Original Message ---- From: Ebifemi Steve <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> To: [email protected] Sent: Thursday, September 11, 2008 3:02:15 PM Subject: Re: [Jos Commandos] motivation empowerment// sure it will interest you// Bros this is tight, pls dont read in a rush, this could be what u need to get the result u being waiting for. --- On Wed, 9/10/08, Kadiri Ibrahim *Bragadoe* <[EMAIL PROTECTED] com> wrote: From: Kadiri Ibrahim *Bragadoe* <[EMAIL PROTECTED] com> Subject: [Jos Commandos] motivation empowerment/ / sure it will interest you// To: JosCommandos@ yahoogroups. com, "sherifat adesanya" <[EMAIL PROTECTED] com>, "Tunde Onabanjo" <tunde_onabanjo@ yahoo.co. uk>, "funmi, fasoto" <[EMAIL PROTECTED] com>, "Grace Idowu" <aaronsgrace@ yahoo.co. uk>, "Henry Manshop" <henrymanshop@ yahoo.com>, "john idonije" <[EMAIL PROTECTED] com>, "John Opaluwa" <[EMAIL PROTECTED] co.uk>, "martin alah" <[EMAIL PROTECTED] com>, "kunle ajani" <kunleajani_2000@ yahoo.com>, "sade lisk-carew" <[EMAIL PROTECTED] com>, "tola longe" <[EMAIL PROTECTED] com>, "odeh alogwu" <[EMAIL PROTECTED] com>, "Ameh Alogwu" <[EMAIL PROTECTED] com>, "leonard osahor" <[EMAIL PROTECTED] com>, "biola irojah" <[EMAIL PROTECTED] co.uk>, "omotayo raji" <[EMAIL PROTECTED] com>, "Soga Adebambo" <[EMAIL PROTECTED] com>, "taiwo kusimo" <[EMAIL PROTECTED] com>, "Uchenna Okoye" <[EMAIL PROTECTED] com>, "Ngirika Vincent" <[EMAIL PROTECTED] com>, "mustapha muhammed" <[EMAIL PROTECTED] com>, "abayomi olumudi" <[EMAIL PROTECTED] com>, "okwechime ugochukwu" <[EMAIL PROTECTED] com>, "Nendinma Pollit" <[EMAIL PROTECTED] co.uk>, [EMAIL PROTECTED] com, "Charles Erikume" <[EMAIL PROTECTED] com>, "ADOI" <[EMAIL PROTECTED] com>, "Emeka Anoje" <[EMAIL PROTECTED] com>, "Chinyere Onu <[EMAIL PROTECTED] com>, Tunde Ajiteru" <[EMAIL PROTECTED] com>, "Tunde Shittu" <olatunde_folorunsho @yahoo.com>, "Aniekan Ikpat" <anniea772001@ yahoo.co. uk>, "pascal or" <archpascalor@ yahoo.com>, "akinade akinsoyinu" <olafusiakinade@ yahoo.com>, "Tunde Jinadu" <tunde.jinadu@ firstinlandbankp lc.net>, "emoubosan akpokiniovo" <emuobosan.akpokinio [EMAIL PROTECTED] uk>, [EMAIL PROTECTED] co.uk, [EMAIL PROTECTED] co.uk, "xristy abubakar" <christyabubakar@ yahoo.com>, [EMAIL PROTECTED] com, "kenneth chigbo" <[EMAIL PROTECTED] ca>, "alex chiadikobi" <aleko20002001@ yahoo.com>, "Tunde Jinadu" <[EMAIL PROTECTED] com>, [EMAIL PROTECTED] com, "saheed oseni" <osenisaheed@ yahoo.com>, banjomargaret@ yahoo.com, tojuthompson@ yahoo.com, ibrahim00us@ yahoo.com, [EMAIL PROTECTED] com, "mohammed Aliu" <[EMAIL PROTECTED] com>, acoustik_gb@ yahoo.com Cc: "Babatunde Agboola" <[EMAIL PROTECTED] com>, "Tope Odufuye" <[EMAIL PROTECTED] com>, "Layi Omotosho" <[EMAIL PROTECTED] com>, "Niyi Ige" <[EMAIL PROTECTED] com>, niyi4life123@ yahoo.co. uk, "rachel egbujor" <chienye_2001@ yahoo.com>, "chima ekpo" <[EMAIL PROTECTED] com>, "Fakorede Emmanuel" <[EMAIL PROTECTED] com>, "Eweye Eyetan" <[EMAIL PROTECTED] com>, "abidemi esuola" <[EMAIL PROTECTED] com>, "felicia okonkwo" <feliciaokonkwo@ hotmail.com>, "Ayodele Oladeji" <[EMAIL PROTECTED] co.uk>, "folahan oladipo" <[EMAIL PROTECTED] com>, "Emmanuel Adetunji Taiwo" <[EMAIL PROTECTED] com>, "katherine thompson" <[EMAIL PROTECTED] com>, "yamah biola" <[EMAIL PROTECTED] com>, "Queen Odibo" <tessaqueenie@ yahoo.com>, maliqolatunde@ gmail.com, "clement maigida" <[EMAIL PROTECTED] com>, "femi" <femakin2000@ yahoo.com>, "bukky adeyemi" <[EMAIL PROTECTED] com>, "funmi adeleye" <[EMAIL PROTECTED] com>, "godday abubakar" <[EMAIL PROTECTED] com>, "agaba" <[EMAIL PROTECTED] com>, "ismaila kadiri" <ismailadafricanprid [EMAIL PROTECTED]>, [EMAIL PROTECTED] com, yomionthemove@ yahoo.com, [EMAIL PROTECTED] com, [EMAIL PROTECTED] com, "Tunde Fehintola" <tundefehintola@ yahoo.com>, "toni boriowo" <toni_boriowo@ yahoo.com>, "Alo Olaniyi" <olarayrayskimming@ yahoo.co. uk>, "chukwuma ochonogor" <[EMAIL PROTECTED] com>, [EMAIL PROTECTED] com, "charles ebuzome" <ebuzome2000@ yahoo.com>, "kate ayoade" <[EMAIL PROTECTED] co.uk>, Michael.adefisan@ clearbus. co.uk, "mike nweke" <michaelcn76@ yahoo.com>, "Francis Ogbebor" <dolphinfbi2001@ yahoo.com>, enoch_anyankpele@ yahoo.com, [EMAIL PROTECTED] com, [EMAIL PROTECTED] com, [EMAIL PROTECTED] com, [EMAIL PROTECTED] co.uk, [EMAIL PROTECTED] co.uk, [EMAIL PROTECTED] com, [EMAIL PROTECTED] com Date: Wednesday, September 10, 2008, 5:33 AM Motivation Empowerment - introduction Who is pulling your strings? Who is in control of your life and your destiny? Do you have a clear picture of where you are and where you are going or are you blinded and walking around in a daze? If you are curious enough and look around you, it won’t take much to come to the conclusion that most people are living like lost puppets. They have lost all control of their lives and live according to what circumstance dictates. Even sadder is the fact that most have resigned themselves to the situation and see no way out of the drudgery, meaninglessness and emptiness of their lives. There are perhaps the fortunate ones, who realize that something is wrong. The more unfortunate do not even realize the futility of their existence. Motivation Empowerment - the lost puppet "Lost puppets"sad, but true way to describe such people. They are "lost" because they are either "Lost puppets" is a sad, but true way to describe such people. They are "lost" because they are reading the wrong road map of life or they are using the correct map but going in the is a wrong direction. They are "puppets" because they are not in the driver’s seat! Someone else is pulling the strings. If you want to get around in Manchester you will use a map of Manchester, and not one of New York. So to get around in life you need to have the correct road map of life. This road map represents your beliefs and attitudes. Your beliefs and attitudes have to be consistent with the truth. Motivation Empowerment - get the right knowledge It is your responsibility to get the correct knowledge so you can have the correct road map of life. Ignorance is no defense. Ignorance will kill you. The old saying that "what you don’t know won’t hurt you" is not true. What you don’t know can and will hurt you. If you don’t know that you can be wealthy, you will live below your capabilities. If you don’t know that life can and should be enjoyed, you will spend your days in misery. If you don’t know that you too can be great, you will die in mediocrity and all we will know about you is what school you went to and who you worked for. That is what is said at most funerals and I often ask myself: "is there nothing more that could be said about this person’s life? Did their being in this world make no difference to anyone else’s life?" W.W. Ziege sums up the issue of our road map well when he says: "Nothing can stop the man with the right mental attitude from achieving his goal; nothing on earth can help with man with the wrong mental attitude." Motivation Empowerment - get in the driver's seat Moving on to the second point, you need to be in the driver’s seat of your life. You are? Are you sure? A lot of us have given our lives over to others without even realizing it. We let our careers or jobs dictate what we do and when we do it. Most times it is our parents, spouses, friends or neighbours that determine what we do with our lives. We have given them power over our lives because we do not know what we personally want. The trouble is, neither do they. They are likely to be lost puppets as well. The truth is that while you are not totally responsible for what does and doesn’t happen to you, you are responsible for how you respond to what happens to you. The truth also involves acknowledging that there are some things that are within your control and others that you cannot do anything about. If you focus your time and energy on the things you can change and stop worrying about the things you cannot change, your life will improve immeasurably. Motivation Empowerment - what do you want, really? Have you ever sat down and written clearly what you want your life to be? Have you designed your ideal life? You are not in control until you firmly and clearly write down what you want your life to be. If not, you are a passenger in your own life and a wisher. There is a big difference between wishing and being a dreamer.. Wish Dreamers design their ideal life and work to achieve it everyday. They don’t believe in chance or luckers wait on a genii to grant their three wishes all their lives. The problem is, if the genii were to ever show up they still wouldn’t know what to wish for! Motivation Empowerment - it's not up to the government Contrary to popular Zambian belief, the government is not responsible for all the problems in your life. Most of all, it is not responsible for how your life turns out. I hear so many people requesting government to do something about everything from the flooding in their own back yards to telling them how they should dress! I cannot blame such people for seeing things that way. It is so typical of human nature to look outside of ourselves when faced with challenges and shortcomings. But, not only is the problem within us, the miracle is that the solution also lies within us. If you are going to remember anything about this article it should be this: you are in total control of your life. The only person you can truly blame for your failures is you. Cut off those puppet strings and take charge. If you do not exercise that control then you have given it over to someone or something else whether by choice or by default. Allow me to borrow a military term which states: "there is no blank file." If a soldier leaves the formation either on parade or in battle someone else comes and takes over that position, it cannot be left blank. So it is with your life. The decisions you do not make are made for you. It may seem hard to take full responsibility for your life, but ultimately you will find it is the single most empowering decision you will ever make. If you decide not to blame others for your failures and not to look to others for your successes, you will start to achieve great things. You will take back your power over your own life. Motivation Empowerment - conclusion Mark Victor Hansen concludes: "You control your future, your destiny. What you think about comes about. By recording your dreams and goals on paper, you set in motion the process of becoming the person you most want to be. Put your future in good hands: your own." Best Regards IBRAHIM KADIRI...... ......... ...BRAGADOE "Never let them see you coming"--(Al Pacino- Devil's Advocate)08032811020, 08020523793
