Many of our friends said that it's the guys who should refuse dowry & its girls family should also take a firm decision not to offer dowry. I wonder why you people did not talk much about the girl who is still silent & supporting this evil system in Kerala which has taken roots all over India.
About 3years back in my Postgraduate class, we had a paper about this dowry system. We in our college (St.Teresa's college, Ernakulam) had a hot discussions and debate on the same. Finally we conducted a survey on this, we prepared questionnaires, and conducted interviews etc. result was that among girls, 83% of educated girls supported dowry. According to them dowry is a must because it helps them financially to raise a secure family and more over it's the duty of the parents to offer an ample share of their property to the girl who is leaving her home. Yaa they don't want to use the term dowry, but want to call it 'Share', a loving share from their own family. Rose, as you said the whole society have to change & attitude have to change(is it easy?) still doubt how many girls will come forward to marry a man who won't demand any dowry and how may gals will take a resoultion that she will marry a man who won't demand any dowry.... Think it will take time to bring such a change in Indian women. Priya Cochin ----- Original Message ----- From: rose antony <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> To: <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> Sent: Monday, December 03, 2001 8:49 PM Subject: [JOYnet] Re: Dowry issue > U TOOK ME ABSOLUTELY WRONG,Suresh. > I never ever said it's only for guys, because i know more girls /girls' parents than guys who insist on giving dowry just to SHOW OFF their financial status. I have some examples in My fathers family - My cousin was getting married and the guy said he doesn't need a 'chilli kaasu', but my aunty insisted on giving the dowry....just to show off ! the result now is that the guy has got a major ego problem with his in-laws. he still feels that he was bought for a ransom amount. > I have a dentist friend, he claims that he spent loads and loads to do his BDS & MDS and he insists on taking dowry for the money he had to spent to re ach where he is now. > I don't wanna say it's only guys.......more than the candidates, it's their relatives who pricks them about the need of taking and giving a good money as dowry. **************************************************************** This mail is generated from JOYnet, a Jesus Youth mailing list. To unsubscribe, send a mail to [EMAIL PROTECTED] To subscribe to this mailing list, visit http://www.jesusyouth.org/joynet For automatic help, send a mail to [EMAIL PROTECTED] In case of any issue related to the mailing list contact [EMAIL PROTECTED] ****************************************************************
