> Hi E-one, True this is a very important article.Please so read.Thank u Shaji Chacko for posting it. Milan Changanasserry/Kerala/India
> THE HORROR IN FRIENDLY INQUIRY > > Making a friendly inquiry is a good practice. But without love it may > hurt people. Consider an unmarried girl. She may not be anxious about > her marriage and may be having the faith to wait for the Lord's time, > but the painful inquiries of the people around her may hurt her heart. > Some aged women are of the habit to ask, "Is your marriage not yet > settled?" in public. No one is concerned about the pain these girls > undergo when they see their peers getting married. I have seen many > girls who are reluctant to go to Church for fear of questions like "Is > your marriage not yet settled?" or "Aren't any proposals coming for > you?" When they go for any marriage their acquaintances and friends > comment, "Oh! I thought that you were already married." These people > don't understand the pain and hatred that would arise in the minds of > the girls on hearing such questions. > Many childless couples too bear such pains. The irrational questions of > a few regarding the childlessness hurts many a number of couples trying > to forget this pain. "Did you consult a doctor? Whose problem is this? > What is the problem?"- Such unrestrained inquiry without any concern for > the self-respect and feelings of the couple would arise only from a > heart without love. > Inquiry is often done as a formality and not because of any concern for > the childlessness of the couple or the problems in the marriage of a > girl. Sympathizing may not be out of love always. It may be arise from > haughtiness or hatred. Even if it is out of love, sympathizing without > prudence will only aggravate the sadness. For instance, consider a widow > who has not recovered from the demise of her husband. Usually > sympathizers come forth there. > "Oh! How loving was he? God doesn't allow good people to live long. this > is fate. he looks as though he is asleep." Such comments bring back the > thoughts about the husband to the wife who would have been in the > process of recovering from the demise of her beloved. Instead of talking > on such matters, exchange a few words on the love and care of God and > his plans for our welfare. This would strengthen them to move forward in > life with confidence. > A girl who was totally blind said, "Though I don't have eyesight I don't > want to live under the sympathy of anyone. I can think, dream, pray and > love people. God has blessed me with the grace to recognize sound, smell > and touch. I am not an unfortunate person as such. "Oh, my girl, how > much unfortunate are you?" it is such sympathizing questions that is > making me regressive about life. It is not my blindness but the painful > words of those people who don't understand the feelings of my heart that > leaves me exhausted. > Recently the parents of a mentally retarded child said, "we were heart > broken when we understood that the child is mentally retarded. We > couldn't accept the hard fact. Finally we committed ourselves to the > will of God. Today we are discovering ourselves through the child. the > birth of this child has strengthened our faith. This child is a blessing > for us today. We are able to overcome the problems of each day through > faith. But our problem now is the sympathizing of the people around us. > Those who see the child try to convey their sympathy in every way > possible. Therefore today we fear to show the child to anyone." > Sympathizing is inexpensive. But should it be under the expense of > others? > > Benny Punnathara > <http://www.sundayshalom.com> www.sundayshalom.com > > **************************************************************** > This mail is generated from JOYnet, a Jesus Youth mailing list. > For more info on the list visit http://www.jesusyouth.org/joynet > To unsubscribe from the list send a mail to > [EMAIL PROTECTED] > To subscribe to the list visit > http://www.jesusyouth.org/joynet/join > To get a standard help message on the list services send a mail to > [EMAIL PROTECTED] > In case of any issue related to the mailing list contact > [EMAIL PROTECTED] > **************************************************************** **************************************************************** This mail is generated from JOYnet, a Jesus Youth mailing list. For more info on the list visit http://www.jesusyouth.org/joynet To unsubscribe from the list send a mail to [EMAIL PROTECTED] To subscribe to the list visit http://www.jesusyouth.org/joynet/join To get a standard help message on the list services send a mail to [EMAIL PROTECTED] In case of any issue related to the mailing list contact [EMAIL PROTECTED] ****************************************************************
