Dear JYs, I want to know from JY family : If a marriage is 50% love and 50% arranged then, is it a sin? Mine was a 50-50 affair.
I fully agree with Ravi that moderation has to be exercised in this topic called romance. Ravi is correct in stating that love is a 'perfectly normal human emotion'. Bring Jesus into your life. And, it is healthy and beautiful for young lovers to tell , " You me and Jesus.......Jesus, me and U" . Years ago, I told it to the girl who is my wife now. God will work out only the best for His children and we should stitch romance with that thread called Jesus. If we bring our deepest feelings and experiences into God's hands and tell Him about it, and if we can live with romance the way Holy Bible teaches, then falling in love is one of the best experiences anyone can have. It isn't a must that everybody has to fall in love. But for anyone who's calling is to know the life partner before the wedding, then he/she has to take it with grace and holiness. With prayers abbyabraham ----- Original Message ----- From: "Ravi Vaz" <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> To: "Wilson Thomas" <[EMAIL PROTECTED]>; "JoYNet" <[EMAIL PROTECTED]>; "PRADEEP GEORGE" <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> Sent: Thursday, February 20, 2003 10:08 AM Subject: [JOYnet] My comments on Falling in love before mariage is wrong > HI Joynetters, > > I think i will have to disagree with what wilson has pointed out here.. > Falling in love is not a Sin of adultery and not wrong either... > It is a perfectly normal human emotion > It is what you do as a result of falling in love that can become sin or wrong ...if proper care isnt taken.. > I feel that we should understand and spend some time with a person we are interested in.. before thinking abt marriage.. > we cannot do trial and error in such an important aspect of life..by first getting married and then trying to figure out how to get the relationship to work.. > We should be more practical in such things.. > I feel that we shouldnt be so rigid and harsh abt it.. > Just because u love someone doesnt mean u will get married to that person.. > there are other practical concerns that act as barriers to doing so.. Which is gods way of telling us whether a relationship will work or not.. > Please do not confuse the meaning of the word love.. > there are many types of love in this world.. fatherly and motherly love, brotherly love.. > agape love, friendly love, erotic love.. etc.. > we cannot just generalise and say that love means erotic or sexual love.. and then criticise it.. > Please understand that like bible verses, even situations in life are to be understood in context...else it can be dangerous.. > Let u not be too fundamentalist in our thinking...let us learn the beauty of being moderate..and not extreme. > Love and prayers > > ravi > > > Wilson Thomas <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> wrote:Pradeep, > > You are absolutely wrong. Falling in love before marriage is wrong, either > for flesh, or for whatever divine relation we call it. I can show you > hundreds of youngsters believing in these and get cheated. The "right" for > God is not the "right" we choose, but He choose. He choose not as we think, > but through "OTHER" right persons in right time. If we choose like modern > society, we will be changing it every now and then. That is where the > "Spirit of the World" will guide us through. Please dont get cheated... If > we are lacking love in our life, don't borrow it from the street, but get it > abundantly from Jesus. > > If you think that a girl is chosen for you, get married first with the > permission of your guardians and Church. Then love her with whole your > heart. Anything outside that is adultery. If not, we don't need such a > divine sacrament called marriage. ONLY by this sacrament two flesh becomes > one. > > Praise the Lord > > Wilson Thomas > Singapore > ----- Original Message ----- > From: "PRADEEP GEORGE" > > To: "JoYNet" > Sent: Sunday, February 16, 2003 10:53 PM > Subject: [JOYnet] RE::Valentine's day..is it ok to fall in love ? > > > > I think there is nothing wrong in falling love with some one. > > > > But > > >"young people are so much encouraged and pressurized to somehow fall in > > > love even at the risk of making a wrong decision and regretting it till > > the > > > end of our lives . " > > > > This is not the right ..no doubt... > > Love is divine.But only for the sake of saying " i too have an affiar" > is > > not the right way .... > > > > Ofcourse there is some one whom Jesus has selected for all of us from > > the very beginning.And he will reveal whom it is at the right time.We > > need not ry to know it before that , I think. > > > > We can (and we should) pray for the person whom God have selected for us > > from eternity .FOr that we need not know who it is... > > > > We had a preist , who taught us to pray for our future life partner. that > > was during the catechism classes in our tenth standard. > > I belive it is the right way and i do remember his words during all > pray > > times. > > > > Finally ,deepak has asked for advice from married people in the > group.Anyway > > I am not falling into that category.Still just wanted to tell my views on > > this matter. > > > > regards and prayers > > > > pradeep george > > thrissur. > > > > > > > > > > > > ----- Original Message ----- > > From: "deepak" > > To: > > Sent: Sunday, February 16, 2003 9:51 AM > > Subject: [JOYnet] Valentine's day..is it ok to fall in love ? > > > > > > > Dear Bros & sis > > > i have a question for all of u . do u think it is alright > for > > > young people to fall in love ?.be coz of this situation now ..valentines > > day > > > is so commerciallised that it would seem a tragedy to have no one with u > > on > > > Feb 14 th ..no one to give a card ..etc... > > > so now young people are so much encouraged and pressurized to somehow > fall > > in > > > love even at the risk of making a wrong decision and regretting it till > > the > > > end of our lives . so Guys what do u suggest ??? > > > what would Jesus want us to do in such a situatu\ion ...would jesus like > > us to > > > fall in love with some one?..is there some one Jesus selected for us in > > the > > > very begining ..if there is how will we know?...what are the factors > which > > any > > > young person should rethink if he or she find herself to be attraced to > > wards > > > someone? > > > i really don't know how many young people are in this group but i > > certainly > > > know there are many married people in this group ..think u can enlighten > > us > > > with your experience?.... > > > luv deepak > > > trivandrum india > > > > > ============================================================================ > === > > This mail is generated from JOYnet, a Jesus Youth mailing list. > > For more info on the list visit http://www.jesusyouth.org/joynet > > To unsubscribe from the list send a mail to > [EMAIL PROTECTED] > > To subscribe to the list visit http://www.jesusyouth.org/joynet/join > > In case of any issue related to the mailing list contact > [EMAIL PROTECTED] > > > ============================================================================ > === > > ============================================================================ === > This mail is generated from JOYnet, a Jesus Youth mailing list. > For more info on the list visit http://www.jesusyouth.org/joynet > To unsubscribe from the list send a mail to [EMAIL PROTECTED] > To subscribe to the list visit http://www.jesusyouth.org/joynet/join > In case of any issue related to the mailing list contact [EMAIL PROTECTED] > ============================================================================ === > > > --------------------------------- > Do you Yahoo!? > Yahoo! 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