Joan, to prevent this label from being attached to a child, there was a fine
Southern tradition that called for a young lady, in the early stages of
pregnancy, to travel with her mother to some distant location "to care for a
sick aunt" or some other worthwhile purpose.  After the baby was born, they
would return to announce that the aunt had recovered/passed away and, by the
way, while they were there the daughter married a wonderful man and had a
beautiful pre-mature baby.  The new husband is away making his fortune in
the north woods.  A year or so later, the bad news would come that the
imaginary husband had been killed in an accident, leaving the mother free to
marry and live a happy life.  But most important, the baby would grow up
without the illegitimacy stigma.

Jim
----- Original Message -----
From: "Joan Best" <[EMAIL PROTECTED]>
To: <[EMAIL PROTECTED]>
Sent: Friday, July 05, 2002 10:19 AM
Subject: Re: [LegacyUG] Illegitimacy


> It certainly was an offensive term at the time.  If it was known that the
> child was "illegitimate" [a term that actually appeared on birth
> certificates] the child was often shunned.  There were some, I suspect
many,
> "husbands" created on paper at the time the birth information was recorded
> at the hospital, rather than labeling the child with such an offensive
term.
> This was not changed until the late 1960s or early 1970s in the United
> States and it was changed because of the social stigma that was attached.
> Personally I would never use the term.  Indicating whether or not the
> parents are married and when provides the same information, but in a way
> that does not label the child.
> Joan Best
> ----- Original Message -----
> From: "Donald Wingfield" <[EMAIL PROTECTED]>
> To: <[EMAIL PROTECTED]>
> Sent: Thursday, July 04, 2002 7:46 PM
> Subject: RE: [LegacyUG] Illegitimacy
>
>
> > If you want to record your facts as true a possible record it as it is.
> Why
> > is it so offensive, it's fact of life that has been recorded for
hundreds
> of
> > years.
> >
> > -----Original Message-----
> > From: [EMAIL PROTECTED]
> > [mailto:[EMAIL PROTECTED]]On Behalf Of
> > Kenneth Carkeet
> > Sent: Thursday, July 04, 2002 7:31 PM
> > To: Legacy User Group
> > Subject: [LegacyUG] Illegitimacy
> >
> >
> > Greetings.
> >
> > I need some advice on how to handle the question of recording
illegitimacy
> > when setting the status
> > on children. Some people say to  me that this word is offensive and
would
> > cause some embarrassment
> > to those who are born this way, and therefore I should not use this word
> in
> > recording the status of
> > children who are born this way. So this got me thinking how do other
> people
> > or family historians
> > handle this rather sensitive issue. To record or not to record. That is
> the
> > question? What do you
> > all think?
> >
> > Thank you for your advice
> >
> > Ken Carkeet
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