On 3/26/03 15:32, Lee Larson wrote

>On Wednesday, March 26, 2003, at 01:03 PM, Ronald Broadwater wrote:
>
>> I am not familiar with internet discussions other than this group.  I am
>> amazed at the carelessness of the dialogue.  I could never talk with an
>> acquaintance with the tone and egging on that has occurred here.  It 
>> has the emotion of a prelude to a fist fight.
>
>One thing I've learned is that you have to choose your words very 
>carefully in e-mail -- much more carefully than in face-to-face 
>conversation -- because a friendly face takes a lot of the sting off 
>strong language. It's very easy to rub someone the wrong way with 
>e-mail, and it happens for the strangest reasons. For example, I enjoy 
>having fun with words, but several people have written me off-list 
>saying things like "I don't want to go to a thesaurus everytime and 
>look up the meaning of a word." or "Why do you rub your education in 
>our faces by showing off your vocabulary?"
>

Like Lee sez, it actually is possible to offend someone via email even 
when trying to be friendly. Here's something that happened to me:

A student in a distance education computer class asked how to copy a 
formula from a cell in a spreadsheet and paste it into another document, 
since simply copying and pasting would paste the value rather than the 
formula. I wanted to say "read the homework problem, it tells you the 
explicit steps right there", but I tried to be nice, and approach it the 
way that I would if he were sitting in my office, and said "Here's a 
hint: how would you copy and paste between two word processing documents?"

His response: "Here's a hint: I don't like your attitude."

Pretty odd, but it sure made me be really careful about choosing words in 
emails.

Bill


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