So basically, people cheat because they are horny? J. Groom thier targets and go in for the kill? People don't just cheat because they are "bored" with their mates. That is an easy answer to a complex issue. People grow apart for all kinds of reasons (violence, distaste, educational imbalance, disillusionment, etc.) Staying together can be a mental drain that is exhaustive. Don't most extramarital affairs begin with the open door of unease with the current partner? Oh, but it does seem that too much booty is not enough for some men and women no matter how lovely or handsome and accomplished thier current partner.. is that what you allude to with the spiderish "groom and kill reference"? What if you have that acceptable partner and you meet one that is more than exceptional for that time in your life? This person can turn over your life if you let them. Who can say they haven't met that person? Do you wave goodbye and desperately fight your own biology? Is time and distance the best medicine? Overwhelming attraction for others does not mean you are a weak and reprehensible twit, it means you are a normal human being with biological urges that allow and maybe promote infidelity!! Gene spreading? That is if you believe in the scientific method and much of the research out there about what makes us attractive to each other. Biology handed us monogamy for childrearing and religion came along and cemented it into marriage with overly ideal strictures. There seems to be more than one perfect partner out their for each of us, so doesn't that seem like a biological fail-safe to you?
So, tell me it is not a very unrealistic expectation that goes against our basic caveman biology - to expect this religious based ideology of perfect long-lived fidelity? This untainted fidelity is an ideal that few can keep no matter what your partner looks like or how much bloody money they make! We have been indoctrinated to believe in romanticism and it consistantly lets us down as an ideal that can stay the same, floating along in bliss. Not saying mind you, that you can't accept ebb and flow within a partnership and work to make it endure the ebb. Just examining the amorous motivations of humanity:) On Tue, Nov 11, 2008 at 11:32 PM, Jason (Memphis) <[EMAIL PROTECTED] (mailto:[EMAIL PROTECTED]) > wrote: Angelia, I know women and men who've cheated on their spouse. Within this small sample, the reasons vary but I agree that women becoming bored with their husband is definitely one of the many possible reasons for infidelity. Perhaps that is why women groom their targets and then go in for the kill? Jason On Nov 11, 8:52 pm, "Angelia Stinnett" <[EMAIL PROTECTED] (mailto:[EMAIL PROTECTED]) > wrote: > Thanks for writing in Jason, though men don't cheat because of their wives > looks, they cheat because they can. They cheat because their wives are > burdened with all the domestic responsibilities and not catering to what men > see as their entitlement. > > When men cheat, it's not with women who are better looking than their wives, > generally. It's who is available...who would put out... and they generally > start relationships with people they work with, spending an average 4-8 week > "grooming" their potential target and then as soon as they get what they > want, they drop their "girlfriend" and live in regret for a long time. It's > only the really insecure asses that chase young, vulnerable women for looks, > with serial selection of victims. Most men cheat because their relationship > with their wives is bad...and boredom...men rarely see sexual satisfaction > within marriage as their own responsibility. > > And most divorces are initiated by the wife....though women are nearly > always the ones with child responsibilities. The main factor in women > suffering is economics....which has nothing to do with looks. Fat older > women make more money, on average, than younger, skinny women. > > Sarah Palin's looks have absolutely nothing to do with why feminist hate > her...if so, why don't we hate Jenifer Aniston...Jessica Simpson....we hate > Palin because she's an idiot who made her career on looks and then had the > nerve to show up, trying to play us for a fool...women don't like Sarah > Palin because we are not fooled by skinny legs, big boobs, nice clothes, and > botox. Feminist what someone who isn't a G.D. idiot who wants to force us to > give birth to rapists' children and then expect us to raise it with lower > wages and no social services. > > Feminists can't stand Palin because she assumes too damn much and we see > through her. > > Angelia **************Get the Moviefone Toolbar. Showtimes, theaters, movie news & more!(http://pr.atwola.com/promoclk/100000075x1212774565x1200812037/aol?redir=htt p://toolbar.aol.com/moviefone/download.html?ncid=emlcntusdown00000001) --~--~---------~--~----~------------~-------~--~----~ You received this message because you are subscribed to the Google Groups "Memphis Freethought Alliance" group. To post to this group, send email to [email protected] To unsubscribe from this group, send email to [EMAIL PROTECTED] For more options, visit this group at http://groups.google.com/group/memphisfreethoughtalliance?hl=en -~----------~----~----~----~------~----~------~--~---
