Well, I don't find this to be a difficult question at all.  We seem to have a 
steady stream of 6-8 new dancers each evening at our dance in Lenox, MA 
(LenoxContraDance.org).  We encourage our experienced dance community in 
several ways to take time to dance with the new dancers.  I generally try to 
have 3 or so dances in the first half dancing with new people to get them off 
to a nice, friendly start.  When I'm asked to dance during this time that I'm 
searching out the new dancers I simply say that "I'm dancing with new dancers 
for a while.  Want to join me?"

Try it!  

Stephen Moore
Lenox Contra Dance, Lenox, MA.

On May 24, 2010, at 3:54 PM, Jeff Kaufman wrote:

> At dances I'll sometimes skip out on the initial partnering to see if
> there's someone who didn't end up with a partner but would like one.
> I've done this the most at dances where I have some sort of
> responsibility in the group (bida, the contra dances at swarthmore),
> but I try to do it whenever I notice people getting left out.  This
> works pretty well at getting people in, especially new people.  The
> main way it doesn't work is if I get asked to dance by an experienced
> dancer when I intend to be doing this.  I can avoid that somewhat by
> making myself scarce refilling water pitchers or whatever, but
> sometimes people who are fun to dance with and will not be having any
> trouble finding a partner ask me right away.  I can say "I'm sorry;
> I'm looking for a left out newcomer to dance with" but that's kind of
> strange and a bit of a mouthful.  I think what I need is a name for
> this activity.  Is there one already in use somewhere else?  I'd like
> to be able to say "sorry, not this dance, I'm [name-of-this]ing".
> 
> Another advantage of a name is that even if the person I'm talking to
> doesn't understand me at the time beyond "jeff won't dance, need to
> find a different partner", if they come talk to me later I can give
> more detail and it will have a name attached.
> 
> Jeff
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