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Visit www.oikosglobal.com --------------------------------------------------- *** AMAZON.com Top 5 BEST SELLERS for Self Help *** --------------------------------------------------- 1) He's Just Not That Into You: The No-Excuses Truth to Understanding Guys � By Greg Behrendt and Liz Tuccillo http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/ISBN=068987474X/selfimprovemeon1A/ 2) The Games Do Count: America's Best and Brightest on the Power of Sports � By Brian Kilmeade http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/ISBN=0060736739/selfimprovemeonlA/ 3) The 8th Habit: From Effectiveness to Greatness � By Stephen R. Covey http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/ISBN=0684846659/selfimprovemeonlA/ 4) The Experts' Guide to 100 Things Everyone Should Know How to Do � By Samantha Ettus http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/ISBN=1400052564/selfimprovemeonlA/ 5) Who Moved My Cheese? An Amazing Way to Deal with Change in Your Work and in Your Life � By Spencer Johnson, Kenneth H. Blanchard (Foreword) http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/ISBN=0399144463/selfimprovemeonlA/ --------------------------------------------------- *** ARTICLE ADAPTED FROM: �I Can't Believe I Get Paid To Do This!� Remarkable People Reveal 26 Proven Strategies for Making Your Dreams a Reality � By Stacey Mayo, the Dream Queen *** --------------------------------------------------- Top Ten Strategies For Becoming Uncommonly Successful You can shorten your learning curve by learning from the best. To help you do just that, here are 10 of 26 proven strategies gleaned from interviews with highly successful people who have overcome obstacles to accomplish such feats at climbing Mt. Everest, winning a Grammy, becoming an published author and humorist, a professional pitcher in the Major Leagues, an internet entrepreneur who earns millions online and more. Regardless of your career or industry, when applied, these universal success principles can be a catalyst for your success. These principles were excerpted from the book, ��I Can't Believe I Get Paid To Do This!� Remarkable People Reveal 26 Proven Strategies for Making Your Dreams a Reality� � By Stacey Mayo. 1) Create Wealth in Alignment With Your Passions It is important to focus on what you are passionate about first and then find a way to make money at it. Get in touch with your heart first, otherwise, the left side of your brain will rule out perfectly good ideas without having explored them. "Money allows us the freedom to pursue the things that are important to us. Money is not an end it itself." - Stacy Allison, first American woman to successfully climb Mt. Everest 2) Honor Numero Uno: Design Your Life Around Your Priorities Many people try to fit their dreams into their life and complain there are not enough hours in the day to make it happen. If you want your dream to become a reality, make it a priority. Otherwise, it will never be more than a pipedream. 3) Visualize Every Step of Your Dream and Watch the Magic Unfold The muscle movement that helps us physically take action in our lives begins in the mind. That is why all great golfers, tennis players, basketball players, etc. visualize themselves making a shot beforehand. An experiment conducted by Alan Richardson, an Australian psychologist, found 23% performance improvement among subjects who visualized every day for 20 days. In his paper published in Research Quarterly, Richardson wrote that the most effective visualization occurs when the visualizer feels and sees what he is doing. "I really visualized it, too, even as a child watching those programs. I could visualize myself walking up the stage, up the stairs. For me, visualizing those dreams happening was pertinent to making that happen, because I could see it. I pictured it in my head" - Mary Youngblood, welfare mom turned Grammy Award Winner 4) Easy Does It: Inspired Action Always Trumps Forced Action Inspired action is joyful action that is in alignment with your dream. It is action you want to take and the idea of it brings a smile to your face. When you take inspired action, you are aligned with what you are doing and things flow naturally. Contrast this to action that you are forcing yourself to take regardless of whether you feel like doing it. Maybe you are in a bad mood or have a headache but decide you have to take this action and keep trudging forward. The likelihood is that if you take action from this place it will take you twice as long to accomplish your task or goal or there will be obstacles that come up along the way. It's like swimming against strong currents. 5) Laser in On One Idea, Business or Income Stream at a Time One of the mistakes people make is diversifying too quickly. This is true whether you are trying to build multiple streams of income or are just working on several different ideas at one time. The key is getting the first stream or idea up and running, producing good revenue, and having systems in place so it will keep running without you before going on to the next unrelated stream. "Several things going on at one time is a distraction to cash." - Loral Langemeier, single mom, financial literacy coach and millionaire 6) Strengthen Your Relationships: Your Financial Independence is Dependent on Your Connections With Others Many people think of the day when they will be financially independent as "freedom day." And, while financial independence is a worthwhile goal, it does not mean that you are free of your dependence on other people. As a matter of fact, in order to create financial independence, you just might need a lot more people in your life than you have right now. 7) Develop Your Resilience Muscle: Bounce Back From Setbacks The truth is that you will have setbacks along the way. This is just inevitable. The sooner you accept that, the better. Many of these setbacks will take the form of circumstances that come up and block your way. If you look closely, you may find these setbacks are directly correlated with your innermost thoughts, fears, and limiting beliefs. This is because we create what we focus on including those things we don't want. Don't get stopped by these bumps in the road; learn from them. As you work through the setbacks that come up, you will become the person you need to be to live out your dreams. 8) Streamline Your Efforts; Align Your Natural Talents With Your Goal Success comes easier and more quickly when you enhance your strengths and delegate in areas where you are weak. Your natural talents are those things you do so easily and naturally that you think they are no big deal. Many of my clients were overlooking their natural talents when they first came to me. They thought if it is this easy for them, it must be this easy for everyone. This is rarely the case. The key is to take your natural talents and abilities and strengthen them through education and experience. You are not born an expert at anything. It is something you develop. 9) Disarm That Sneaky Inner Saboteur Even when we know what we need to do, we often don't do it out of fear of experiencing the emotions and other things that may come up as a result. Fear of failure and fear of success are the two biggest internal fears that people often face. Most other fears such as fear of rejection fall underneath one of these major categories. As human beings, we will go to great lengths to avoid our fears. That is why so many ideas never get beyond being a great idea, or projects are started and never finished. It is easy to find reasons, excuses, other diversions or projects, create chaos, and sometimes to even create emergencies to avoid these negative feelings or outcomes. One of the most important things you can do is allow it to be okay to have these feelings. Then step back and notice what it is you do to get in your own way. When you have identified what you do, you can make a conscious decision to do it differently. 10) Shorten Your Learning Curve by Learning From The Best You can learn from the people who are barely getting by, from those who are doing fairly well or from those at the top of the heap. Talk to people who are already successful and find out how they did it. That's what the book, �I Can't Believe I Get Paid To Do This!� is about. Its purpose is to provide success principles and philosophies from those who have excelled. They've already been down the road and you can learn from their experience. Why reinvent the wheel when someone else already did a great job of creating it? About the Author: These principles were excerpted from the book, ��I Can't Believe I Get Paid To Do This!� Remarkable People Reveal 26 Proven Strategies for Making Your Dreams a Reality� � By Stacey Mayo, the Dream Queen. Stacey is the Director of the Center for Balanced Living (http://www.balancedliving.com/). She and her team of coaches have assisted thousands of people in living out their dreams with ease and abundance. Stacey Mayo, �The Dream Queen,� 770-643-0886 As seen in Forbes, Newsday, San Francisco Examiner and more than 46 publications across the globe... Check out her new book �I Can't Believe I Get Paid To Do This!� at www.IGetPaidToDoThis.com The list price for this book is $16.95. To purchase it for $11.53 at a 32% discount from Amazon.com, go directly to http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/ISBN=0976077604/selfimprovemeonlA/ --------------------------------------------------- *** BOOK EXCERPT: It's Hard to Make a Difference When You Can't Find Your Keys: The Seven-Step Path to Becoming Truly Organized � By Marilyn Paul, Ph.D. *** --------------------------------------------------- There Must Be a Desk in Here Somewhere My desk was piled high with papers, empty coffee cups, and unopened mail. Perhaps there was even an outdated check lurking in there somewhere. I couldn't tell. The floor served as my filing cabinet. I didn't put papers into files because I was afraid I wouldn't find them again. I still couldn't find them easily, but at least I thought I knew their general whereabouts. I was a management consultant at a demanding firm. My clients and colleagues counted on me to deliver excellent, timely work. I did deliver, most of the time, but at great cost-recurring late-night work sessions; anguished preparation time; and frequent, frantic searches for missing information, my hair standing on end because I couldn't find the folder with the critical data. Some of the intensity stemmed from the very nature of my work, but much of the pressure came from me. Even though I tried to focus and to feel balanced and self-confident-I had practiced meditation for years-my life and work grew ever more stressful because I was usually running late. Rushing to the airport for business trips, I'd skid into the jetway, my heart pounding, just before the crew closed the door. Sometimes it was a high, sometimes I hated it. Running late for meetings, forgetting something yet again, submitting invoices way past deadline, I was creating havoc around me. I valued integrity, but I often broke agreements because I double-booked myself. In addition, I had several years of unfiled taxes. I would lie there, sleepless, worrying about the size of the debt ($1,000? $50,000?), but I still couldn't get my tax returns in the mail. And despite my M.B.A., I had no clue what I owed on my credit cards, because I couldn't find the last set of bills (or any set of bills, for that matter). My personal space was also very messy. When I invited people over, I would swoop through my apartment and throw the clutter into a closet or stash extra belongings under the bed or in the tub, and hope that people didn't peek behind the shower curtain. Things would stay in the closet, only to be buried by the next sweep through. I rarely hung up my clothes. My sink was piled with dirty dishes. I would often lose phone messages. I longed to live in a peaceful, beautiful space. I wanted a sanctuary, but I created chaos. Embarrassing? Very. Could I tell anyone what my life was like? No. I wanted to change, but I got little help from the many books on organizing. To organized people, and in most of the organizing books, the obvious answer is: Pull yourself together, create a plan, and "just do it" or "do it now." Put the keys in one place. File or throw out the mess on the desk and the clutter on the floor. Get rid of the excess stuff in the closets. Put everything in its place. Decide to be on time. That made sense to me, too, so I would try to "do it now." I'd sort the papers on my desk, finally get the dishes done, and then frustratingly I'd be disorganized all over again. What was my problem? How could I fix it? I had accomplished a lot in life. How come I couldn't master the ordinary tasks of every day? What is challenging is that chronic disorganization-like a chronic weight problem-feels as if it has a life of its own. I truly wanted to be different; I wanted to live without chaos and lateness. I just couldn't seem to do it. I would get completely fed up with the mess, the frenzy, and the panic. I would say, "Okay. This is it. This weekend I am throwing everything away. I'm clearing off the desk and the floor, hanging up all the clothes and doing all the dishes. I am creating some peace in this place. And, from now on, I'm arriving on time." But that declaration never worked. After many, many wasted weekends of failing to clean up and failing to have any fun or relaxation, I hired a professional organizer-I'll call her Jane. We sat at my desk in my home office and after several painstaking hours, we had cleared it off. She even gave me a system to stay on top of things. I put everything in a logical place. What a relief! Success! I was organized! Or was I? By the end of the next day, there was a fine spray of clutter on the desk. By the end of the week, the desk looked as if we hadn't touched it. With dismay, I called Jane back. She arrived with a little scowl (such a mess? so soon?) and we cleared the desk again. After another week, not surprisingly, the mess was back once again. How did the desk and papers do that? I wondered. Where was the clutter coming from? I was too mortified to call her back once again, and realized that I was on my own with a mountain of papers. These papers were not just on my desk, though-they littered my office floor, filled my closets, and spilled across the kitchen counters. I had a chaotic office, a disorganized kitchen, a messy car, an unlivable home. Since I had been meditating for a long time, I had developed a small capacity to observe myself with compassion. As I mulled over this discouraging situation, I came to a key realization: I (me?, not me!) was the one creating the mess. I began to see that I created my own mess through the choices I made and my unconscious habits. Becoming aware of this was hard for me, but the more I looked, the more I could see that I was taking actions that led to chaos. A simple example was my very messy car. At the end of the day, I could bring everything in, or leave things in the car. If I left things in the car, it became an ugly, unpleasant mobile storage unit. I was the agent of this mess. I was the source of this chaos. I was very effective at creating it. I was taking actions every day that amplified my inner and outer disorder. It followed that if I created it, I could uncreate it. It was not so easy, though. It took a while to find a way out. Step by step, I discovered a new approach. I decided to apply my extensive experience in change management to this profound challenge and change myself. I established my purpose for organizing, created my vision for where I wanted to go, took stock of my current situation, got good support, and put into practice a few simple strategies. I worked through frightening feelings. Incredibly, I began to experience changes in myself and my life. The frantic, chaotic messy life I was living became less frantic, less chaotic, and much more satisfying. I discovered that order was possible and valuable and didn't ruin my creativity. Oddly enough, some order helped me be more creative. The list price for this book is $14.00. To purchase it for $10.50 at a 25% discount from Amazon.com, go directly to http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/ISBN=0142196177/selfimprovemeonlA/ --------------------------------------------------- *** BOOK REVIEW: Slowing Down to the Speed of Life: How to Create a More Peaceful, Simpler Life from the Inside Out � By Richard Carlson & Joseph Bailey *** --------------------------------------------------- This is the book for you if you've ever had the urge to tell off your boss, quit your job, hurl your Palm Pilot into the trash, and move to a farm. Written by bestselling stress consultant and psychotherapist Dr. Richard Carlson (�Don�t Sweat the Small Stuff�) it advocates the cultivation of a personal mindfulness and "thought navigation" to foster a sense of mental calmness and increased creativity and productivity. With sage tips reminiscent of those in Jon Kabat-Zinn's �Wherever You Go, There You Are,� Carlson recommends a "Psychology of Mind" approach that involves being fully present in each situation and not letting the attitudes of others ruin your day. This way, your thoughts become more organized--wiser, if you will--and you get more work done without even trying. This time management trick is what he says will improve your life--not a cell phone or an electronic scheduler or a personal assistant. Carlson's advice can be taken to heart, as he's used these techniques to improve his own life. While he was working on his Ph.D., he rose at 4 a.m. and "gulped down ten or fifteen cups of coffee" each day just to get all his work done, and would bristle if family emergencies took him away from his studying. Not only does Carlson promise to help boost one's productivity, but he says that relationships and intimacy will improve as well. He maintains that disagreements--at home or at work--are less likely to blow up into full-fledged arguments if you're being calm and levelheaded. "A mind operating at the speed of life can see things as they really are," he writes. "Slowing down gives you needed perspective during times of transition and stress. When you operate at the speed of life and your child desires privacy, you'll probably remember that almost all teenagers go through phases of wanting space from their parents....Rather than take it personally, you'll be able to see the bigger picture. If your mind is moving too quickly, events as well as your own thoughts about events become much larger than they really are." For anyone fed up with life's chaos, �Slowing Down to the Speed of Life� should prove to be an immensely helpful mental health manual. - Erica Jorgensen The list price for this book is $13.95. 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