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--------------------------------------------------- If you read Self Improvement Books, this free newsletter is for you. Information on new book releases, best sellers, book reviews, excerpts, special promotions, interviews with the authors & more. This is an opt-in, by request only newsletter. Subscriber information is listed at the bottom of this email. --------------------------------------------------- Send all questions to [EMAIL PROTECTED] Phone: (732) 761-9930 In this issue: -> Sponsor of the Week -> What�s New? Self-Help NEW BOOK RELEASES � December 22-23, 2004 -> Self-Improvement Book Store -> What Are People Reading? AMAZON.com Top 5 BEST SELLERS for Self Help -> Book Excerpt: How to Heal a Broken Heart in 30 Days: A Day-by-Day Guide to Saying Good-bye and Getting On with Your Life � By Howard Bronson and Mike Riley -> Book Excerpt: Whistle While You Work: Heeding Your Life's Calling � By Richard J. Leider, David A. 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Visit http://www.selfgrowth.com/products/burnfat.html --------------------------------------------------- *** AMAZON.com Top 5 BEST SELLERS for Self Help *** --------------------------------------------------- 1) He's Just Not That Into You: The No-Excuses Truth to Understanding Guys � By Greg Behrendt and Liz Tuccillo http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/ISBN=068987474X/selfimprovemeon1A/ 2) The Games Do Count: America's Best and Brightest on the Power of Sports � By Brian Kilmeade http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/ISBN=0060736739/selfimprovemeonlA/ 3) The 8th Habit: From Effectiveness to Greatness � By Stephen R. Covey http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/ISBN=0684846659/selfimprovemeonlA/ 4) Too Soon Old, Too Late Smart: Thirty True Things You Need to Know Now � By Gordon Livingston, M.D. http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/ISBN=1569244197/selfimprovemeonlA/ 5) The Power of Intention: Learning to Co-Create Your World Your Way � By Dr. Wayne W. Dyer http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/ISBN=1401902154/selfimprovemeonlA/ --------------------------------------------------- *** BOOK EXCERPT: How to Heal a Broken Heart in 30 Days: A Day-by-Day Guide to Saying Good-bye and Getting On with Your Life � By Howard Bronson and Mike Riley *** --------------------------------------------------- Day 1: Independence The Emotional Circus YOUR FIRST REACTION to the end of your relationship is likely to be shock. As soon as the shock wears off, grief arrives. Next, a whole emotional circus stirs: "I'm free. I'm relieved. Yet I'm devastated. I'm furious, hopeful, afraid." Your feelings may broaden into a multicolored panorama. They may include everything from the awesome sense of liberation you felt as a kid on the last day of school, to the nightmare sense that you've just failed your final exam. Back and forth... Please, relax. For better and for worse, your liberation has arrived: it's your Independence Day. As soon as you can bear to share the news of your loss with friends and other loved ones, you're more than likely to find sympathetic support--for at least today. But prepare yourself. Soon enough, though hopefully not on Day One of your recovery, some self-appointed Calvinist will remind you, "You have to work on yourself." Or more primitively: "You gotta do the work." That's when dread may set in. Your precious relationship has just died, and now someone wants to sentence you to hard labor. Your reaction of dread will be deepened by the serious tones in which this grim advice is usually offered. At best, the work will sound like doing chores for Mom, as though you must take out all of your emotional garbage. Phew! Skeptics might well deny the need to do this "work." They'll say: "The work? What work? I was in a romantic relationship for quite a while. For much of that time, it was good and rewarding." Is the impulse to deny this "work" stuff something to feel guilty about? No. At the ultimate level of insight, you must always remember that you are whole and complete, a perfect person, destined to be just as you are. Using the guidance of the authors of this book, your next thirty days will see you through a journey of self-recovery. You'll not be overloaded with new ideas about love and human nature. Instead, you'll be strengthened with no work at all. If you want to build your body's muscles, you go to the gym. You work out. Here, we offer a cerebral spa for your wounded emotions. It's designed to help you realize your will's healing strength and ability to reintegrate the pieces of your broken heart. Helpful Hurters SO WHAT ABOUT this "work" stuff that others talk about? How long do you have to do it? And why bother? As some people speak about it, this "work" sounds like a prison sentence. All you did was lose or outgrow a love. Now you need to begin the new adventure of healing. Why should you have to do hard labor for this? The growing sense of confinement that such ideas of work may inspire could just add to your pain and confusion. Everyone will seem eager to give you easy answers. Too few of those answers will make complete and immediate sense. Your sole certainty is that you hurt, really hurt, right now. That which had once seemed comforting has been wrested away from you. You find yourself in murky darkness. You need strong, clear light, yet all those near you have to offer are candles and matches. You're in a susceptible state. Sad songs make sense like never before. Whether you feel vindicated and defiant or defeated for all time, you may be more wide open than usual, more vulnerable. Your friends and advisors may suggest that your broken spirit requires long-winded, obscure instructions about how to get through these difficult times. If you ask for it, advice will arrive from all sides: via face-to-face contact, e-mail, voice mail, or ordinary mail, even as rumors passed on the wind. There's so much advice out there, however, if you listen to all of it your confusion will certainly deepen, and you may forget one simple fact. That's the trustworthy words of the good witch of Oz, which offer all of the wisdom you'll ever need: "You had the power within you all along." Your confusion with the advice you're being offered may be well founded. Your advisors' motives may range from true generosity to barely concealed power plays. At best, people see offering advice to the afflicted as doing their own good work, especially when it's easy to offer. And offering love advice to others who suffer makes us feel better about ourselves. Offering advice also can be a token in a contest for power, with the advisor really saying, "I'm better than you, because I'm not suffering as you are. And I know how to get out of the trouble you're in. It's about time you followed my lead." People who say, "I'm sorry, but I don't know what to tell you," might sound as though they really don't care. But they may be the most honest of all your advisors. Most of us want to help end the suffering of others, especially when it can be carried out in a mindless manner. So we say: "You'll be all right"; "Men are like buses, there's a new one along every five minutes"; "You weren't right for each other"; "There's plenty more fish in the sea"; et cetera. The list price for this book is $12.95. To purchase it for $9.71 at a 25% discount from Amazon.com, go directly to http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/ISBN=0767909089/selfimprovemeonlA/ --------------------------------------------------- *** BOOK EXCERPT: Whistle While You Work: Heeding Your Life's Calling � By Richard J. Leider, David A. Shapiro *** --------------------------------------------------- The Roots of Calling At a fairly young age�by fifth or sixth grade, certainly�most of us have a pretty good sense of what we love to do�and what we don't. Of course, we usually can't put a job title on it at that point; for an 11-year-old, loving to draw doesn't translate into being an art director; nor is finding math class fun a sign that a youngster should think about becoming an accountant. Moreover, given that well over half of the jobs that kids will grow up into haven't even been invented yet, it's obvious that we can't expect too much specificity in career choice at such a young age. Still, the essential core is already there. Our gifts, though nascent, have already begun to take shape. Deep within, a part of us knows that we are here on this planet for a reason. A sense of destiny, unformed as it is, lies just beneath the surface of our awareness. And, even as children, we naturally incline towards the experiences that allow us to express this. Somewhere along the line, though, we get sidetracked. We silence that voice within that speaks to us about what really matters. We make choices�or have them made for us�that are driven by practical concerns. We set aside "childish" dreams in the interest of making a living or satisfying someone else's plans. We seem to forget what we knew as boys and girls�what we most love to do. But that wisdom never really goes away. It can be revived. We can open ourselves to that innate knowing that guided us when we were young: the inner urge to give our gifts away. The roots of calling in our lives go back very deeply�to even before we were born. Calling is an expression of our essence; it's our embedded destiny. The seed of this destiny lies within us; one way or another it seeks to fulfill itself in the world. So the question we need to ask ourselves is whether we're doing all we can to bring the fruits of our calling to bear. Seeds of Destiny One unmistakable conclusion that Dick has drawn from a lifetime of coaching individuals about life and career design is this: we all possess seeds of destiny. Each of us has within us God-given natural gifts�unique potential for creative expression. From birth we have what we need to become all we can be. The challenge, of course, is to figure out how to make a living with our uniqueness; how to connect who we are with what we do. But often we don't have to look very far to find our life's calling. We can simply start doing whatever we are already doing�driving a taxi, being a lawyer, raising a child, waiting on tables�with greater reverence for and attention to our natural gifts. On a day-to-day basis, most jobs can't fill the tall order of making the world a better place, but particular incidents at work can have real meaning when we make valuable contributions, genuinely help someone in need, or come up with creative solutions to difficult problems. These transactions are meaningful because we do them with good will rather than simply to earn a paycheck. They are naturally rewarding and often occur effortlessly. Such moments put a whistle in our work. They fill purposeful lives�lives that are apt to be happier than lives that lack such moments. The way we approach our work depends on our "big picture" of life. Unfortunately, many of us lose that perspective; we get so focused on the particulars at hand that we make decisions impulsively, losing touch with what is really important to us. The list price for this book is $16.95. To purchase it for $11.53 at a 32% discount from Amazon.com, go directly to http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/ISBN=1576751031/selfimprovemeonlA/ --------------------------------------------------- *** BOOK REVIEW: Siblings Without Rivalry: How to Help Your Children Live Together So You Can Live Too � By Adele Faber & Elaine Mazlish *** --------------------------------------------------- With a title like this, it's no surprise that authors Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish had a monster bestseller on their hands when the book first appeared in 1988. From the subsequent deluge of readers' stories, questions, and issues, they have created nearly 50 pages of new material for this, the 10th anniversary edition. The central message remains the same, and sounds almost too simple: avoid comparisons. But parents know that's easier said than done. The value of Faber and Mazlish's discussions is precisely that they talk you through umpteen different situations and outcomes to help you teach your brawling offspring a new set of responses. The highly informative text is punctuated with helpful summary/reminder boxes and cartoons illustrating key points. It's a must-read for parents with (or planning on) multiple children. But parents of young children who get along fine (so far) should read it too--as the authors make very clear, rivalry is inevitable. The only question is how to manage the rivalry with intelligence and compassion, and on that subject they offer a wealth of good advice. --Richard Farr The list price for this book is $13.00. 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