After
your date tonight, (if it's one of your first few ones) you really want
her to refer to you as a 'nice person', right? Although you might have
striven hard to get the 'bad boy' image (at least with fellow male
friends), you better strive equally hard if not more, to be ‘mister
nice who cares for one and all’ if you want the woman you desire.
If you just thought you're 'nice' anyways, you could be in for a shock. Sure
you're nice – most people are. So what?
Being
nice is not enough. Making her comfortable at the dining area or
opening the door of your vehicle for her is good, but you also need to
be interesting. (FYI, a ‘nice guy’, women have told us, equates to
'wimp' in too many people's minds.)
Following are some
significant things that can make the difference between a regular nice
guy and a 'successful' one. Read it twice…or more. In fact we suggest
you stick it on your bedroom wall if you're single and dating.
1 Women love a man who is a challenge. The
quickest and easiest way we've ever heard to let a woman know that
'you' are the guy she should be pursuing is to let women know you are
successful with women. If you're nice, but at the same time are also
'easily gettable', you may get thumbs down.
2 The
most effective way (we hope you know this but still is a point worthy
to be reiterated) to approach a woman and ignite her attraction for you
is giving her a compliment on her looks. They're simple, effective, and
most importantly, FREE! You give attention, and you will get attention
in return! But beware, they can be suicidal if given at wrong time and
about the wrong places.
3 Not being
'aggressive' doesn't mean you have to wait for madam perfection to drop
into your lap (which you as a ‘nice guy’ deserve, of course). You have
to take some initiative. Be confident (but not really
over-enthusiastic) and show some honest interest in a woman.
4 The
best selling genre of books in the world is romance novels... because
women love romance! So don't talk about hardcore sports for God’s sake!
(You can talk about some cute-looking cricketers, if she is of that
type). But mostly, stick to mush-talk. If you are not the type who can
talk about the smell of burnt tree leaves, don’t do it. You’ll look
fake. But taking your date in a romantic place, offering her a flower,
enjoying some jazz or even touching her hand in a delicate way is very
romantic.
5 Don’t talk
only about yourself. You want her to listen to you? First listen
carefully to her when she needs to be heard and hope for the best
results. The most effective way to be interesting is asking questions
and listening.
Keep in mind that often (not always, but very
often) when a woman tells you about a problem she’s having, she's not
looking to you for the solution. So don't give her unnecessary gyaan
but only comfort and reassurance that you’re there.
6 One
of the most important rules of dating is to approach women who are
interested in dating in the first place! Don’t try to sell chalk to
someone who's looking for cheese. Also, don’t get too preachy-friendly
with women still reeling under their ex-long term relationships.. You
will ‘remain’ just a shoulder to cry!
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