Mornin' In our deliberations of actively holding space — and as always happens when I am in contemplation — an outward manifestation occurs. I found myself sending this to a few close friends, and grinned as I watch it take place on the screen — speaking to holding space, to my stretch away from a traditional parental model — which takes place in organizations as we know. I wondered til this morning if I'd be able to place my vulnerability on such a public list. And, of course <grin> with that thought knew that I must! So, I offer it without editing in the spirit of dialogue on actively holding space! *********** I am writing on this sunny Sunday morning to ask you to take a brief moment and hold space with me. A beautiful time has happened in our family life. My young adult sons are going through growth decisions and learning. In my full knowing I need to serve that -- not fix it, as nothing is broken, not help it, as he is the only so called "expert" in his life — just quietly serve and hold space. Setting clear boundaries is so important, even knowing in setting some of those boundaries my sons may choose to react with pain, disconnection and confusion. Even knowing and celebrating that those reactions will be catalysts for great growth. I am not the creator -- not responsible for his every emotion. And then there is my mother heart -- oh my she is experiencing great growth. This is the moment we have been waiting for when my sons spread their own wings and fly. And, to be honest, I cry out because part of me still wants to wrap him in my arms as when he was a small child -- the mother wolf protecting her cub, solving his problems, his saviour in times of need! To do that now would stunt his growth, close space, and clip his wings, no-- our wings -- serving none of us. And I need to be present moment to moment in holding that space actively..... with great love and a full heart.
with love and great gratitude and in peace, Judi Judith Richardson jud...@ponoconsultants.com Pono Consultants International Facilitating the Flow of Inspired Collaboration (902) 435-0308 www.ponoconsultants.com * * ========================================================== osl...@listserv.boisestate.edu ------------------------------ To subscribe, unsubscribe, change your options, view the archives of osl...@listserv.boisestate.edu, Visit: http://listserv.boisestate.edu/archives/oslist.html
