Very interesting story, Brendan. But was she really "an invader"? What did she "invaded"?
Artur Good question Artur - thanks for it. It has got me thinking - I can see that I've used the term from an internal and external perspective Internal - as she started to speak me, I had the feeling internally that she was invading my space - I guess I had set myself down to breath deep and relax, content that the agenda had been raised and folks were off and into it...so here was this 'visitor' who was invading my 'billabong' (quiet, restful place for re-freshing) with her issue - and I was disturbed and distracted....I wonder if I would have even referred to her as an 'invader' had she had sat down and told me how great she thought the whole process was...? A wee bit of selective evaluation there - when indeed, as it happens with all unplanned engagements, she was a gift to me and I didn't actually refer to her in my mind as an 'invader' until later when I reflected on the story myself - perhaps 'invader' is not an appropriate term to use in this context at all....she was a visitor in my space..a guest to be welcomed and honoured? External - referring to her 'invading' the process - trying, as I judged her initially, to subvert the process by manipulating the facilitator - projecting her fears or inhibitions or whatever onto me to get her issue raised without her raising it...so, in this sense I used the term 'invader' - and again - my own language around this may lead me to an inappropriate 'labelling' of such an essential ingredient for growing the space - I have no idea who she spoke with after that conversation with me - what she said - what she felt or thought, or prayed - how her response to my 'listening' may have contributed to whatever happened further down the track in session three.... I'm content now - she was a guest and a gift - to me and the process - regardless of what her conscious intention may have been - that'll do me! Cheers Brendan * * ========================================================== osl...@listserv.boisestate.edu ------------------------------ To subscribe, unsubscribe, change your options, view the archives of osl...@listserv.boisestate.edu: http://listserv.boisestate.edu/archives/oslist.html To learn about OpenSpaceEmailLists and OSLIST FAQs: http://www.openspaceworld.org/oslist
