Cecilia: I Like what all our friends told you and I understand how you can feel. I had a feeling like that in April 2013 because I was facilitating a big OS and the organisators wanted to improve their image. But some friends I have told me to open the space conecting my self with my hart, thinking of my real intention that was to serve that group. I felt much better, I felt honered to be the person who was going to poen that space and i was a very good expeirence. The preparation was inside of me. It worked! Adriana
2013/7/26 Cecilia Soriano <csoriano2...@yahoo.com.ar> > *THANK YOU! Christine, James, Harrison, Lisa!* > That great honor to receive your words, your thoughts, your time, your > support, your wisdom! > That's really what I was looking for > > Thanks for re-connect me with the valuable... > > All value to be heard... > I wish to create conditions on Thursday to make everyone feel heard... > > I take a deep breath and have faith > > GRACIAS con profunda emoción! > Cecilia > > *From:* Lisa Heft <lisah...@openingspace.net> > *Sent:* Friday, July 26, 2013 6:39 PM > *To:* World wide Open Space Technology email > list<oslist@lists.openspacetech.org> > *Subject:* Re: [OSList] Highly Controversial Group > > I would add to everyone's wise words - > > It is not just the slice of time you have them in a meeting. > It is also how invitation, relationship-building, messaging, design of > time... all of the pre-work - supports the success of a dialogue-based > meeting. > The higher the conflict, the more time for relationship building before > the event, the more useful timing, placement and type of / inclusion of > food is, the more time (ideally) you want for people to be able to name > their story, feel fully witnessed, and feel heard. Not changed, just heard. > > Plus it is good to really look at documentation design - what is the > capacity and reality of what will be done with the information and ideas > and relationships generated at the event, after the event. > As we all know, a single moment does not necessarily change behavior. > Ideally, this event is designed in to sort of a chain of gatherings, > actions, events and relationships that are designed over time. > > I know you may not be able to change some of those 'must-have's', Ceci. > > Like delivery of information (rather than engagement). > > Can that happen before people arrive, in any other way. > Can it happen in a creative way, showing diverse voices. > What will it do that either confirms peoples' existing positions or makes > them mad or agitated. Does that help. Does that fit the objective for > bringing them together. > > Is there anything that can be shifted, moved, adjusted - so there is more > time to unfold into conversation and discovery, so the reflective thinkers > have voice, not just the quickest responders. > > What is the messaging - how is it being described. > Recommendation: leave any word about anxiety or discomfort out of your > theme. If you name it, people will hold that. > What is the nature of invitation. Is invitation / invitation strategy > about individual outreach, one-on-one communication, so that everyone > coming in the room has a welcoming person they have already met, even if > online. > Pre-registration - can also give you a chance to share information and > tone - and to gather information to support every individual. > > Design of name tags. Can they be just first and last name (large so people > can see across a small conversation) without any title or organization. > > I know you are asking about 'what if x happens in the moment'. > But there is more than that to support the best possible situations. > > And then you prepare yourself. You eat. You sleep. You stay hydrated. You > use all your tools. You breathe. You welcome. > You look ahead at some 'what-ifs' such as what if something runs a little > longer than expected - can you design in a bit more time, are there bowls > of fruit to pass around if things run a bit late (both for nutrition and > for a moment of people sharing with each other) to bring in the room if > running late makes people tired, things like that. > > You open the circle mentioning perhaps not the anxiety - but perhaps at > the 'whatever happens' description you can say that people are welcome to > name what was, what should be, what isn't - but they also have a chance to > share thinking about the new story, that begins now, if they wish. Up to > them. > > And then you remember that we are all with you. > Like a flock of butterflies standing lightly on your shoulders, > witnessing, believing in you. > And believing in each of those people, and their passions. > Perhaps one of us butterflies landing lightly on the shoulder of someone > in the room who has anger or anxiety. Witnessing for them, as well. > > And then you remember you have a peaceful center. Because you do. > > And then you take it where it goes. Because you did everything you could > do to prepare, and now it is time to dance the dance. > So wear comfortable shoes ;o) > > We believe in you, > Lisa > > > > > *From:* oslist-boun...@lists.openspacetech.org [ > mailto:oslist-boun...@lists.openspacetech.org<oslist-boun...@lists.openspacetech.org> > ] *On Behalf Of *Cecilia Soriano > *Sent:* Friday, July 26, 2013 3:40 PM > *To:* oslist@lists.openspacetech.org > *Subject:* [OSList] Highly Controversial Group**** > **** > Hello everybody!**** > **** > I *have a big challenge and I need your wisdom!***** > The next next Thursday, I will be facilitating an OS, with a group of > 190 Secondary School Principals. Is a highly controversial group in a very > politicised and complicated context... (ideal for open space isn't it?)*** > * > **** > But in my practice, I haven´t had the opportunity to meet with groups > like this...where there is much aggressiveness and the bonds of trust are > very damaged...**** > I would like to learn from your experience. and know what warning should > I take?**** > **** > *Some Context:***** > My client told me that there are very opposing groups. And in their > regular meetings (not in open space) there are people who start to scream > and insult boycotting all the meeting and not allowing the dialogue... If > happen a situation like that, at the beginning of the circle, which do you > recommend to do?**** > **** > In addition to breathe, breathe and hold space... "confidence in people > and in the process"**** > In imagie that facing that hypothetical situation... It would be correct > to give them the space of listening, and then tell them that they can leave > if they are not comfortable there... Although it would be very important to > stay to make their contribution...**** > And then continue with those who want to follow...**** > **** > What do you think about that? Which is your experience in similar cases? > **** > **** > Grateful for your comments!**** > Warm greetings from the Argentine winter.**** > **** > Cecilia**** > **** > *Mobile: 00 54 9 341 6657790***** > *skype: cecisoriano***** > *www.conversacionesparatodos.com ***** > > > > ------------------------------ > _______________________________________________ > OSList mailing list > To post send emails to OSList@lists.openspacetech.org > To unsubscribe send an email to oslist-le...@lists.openspacetech.org > To subscribe or manage your subscription click below: > http://lists.openspacetech.org/listinfo.cgi/oslist-openspacetech.org > > > _______________________________________________ > OSList mailing list > To post send emails to OSList@lists.openspacetech.org > To unsubscribe send an email to oslist-le...@lists.openspacetech.org > To subscribe or manage your subscription click below: > http://lists.openspacetech.org/listinfo.cgi/oslist-openspacetech.org > > -- Adriana Díaz-Berrio Ph.D. CRHA (514) 739 2268 www.diazberrio.com
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