Dear Deb
The story which is in the current Women's WEEKLY
covering both the laylas birth and up to this child deals superficially with the
pregnancies more about the relationship of Vanessa and her aprtners, and for me
says C/S is safe no discussion of the pros or cons.
And yes I understand the anxieties tho I personally
have not been there and I make no judgements other than the lack of discuussion
and presentation of C/s as safe! I agree about the impact of loosing Layla
as something to stimulate discussion of issues which this is.
Denise
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Subject: Re: [ozmidwifery] ImpactOf
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In a message dated 10/7/02 9:21:49 AM W. Australia Standard
Time, Denise writes:
I am concerned at one of the strong messages of the forthcoming
Loosing Layla Sequel = having an elective C/S is safe and sure to have
a live baby!??
We know it is not but there is nothing out in the
media to counter this argument, idea, in fact we have noted and
argued about other mainstream programs which have said this but here it
is again!! Here it is again!!
This is a difficult one
this isn't it - because it's bound up with the awful past experience that will
affect the parents' rational thinking process.
Our second died at birth
(although not because of anything to do with his birth). nevertheless,
when I was pregnant again, despite all my best endeavours, I know that the
choices I made during the subsequent pregnancies were influenced by what had
gone before. When my third son developed problems and had intrauterine
surgery, I was convinced that he would be born by section. However, the
OB and paediatrician both convinced me that a vaginal birth would be better -
and that was how he was born. The point I'm trying to make is that
because of my highly emotional state during the subsequent pregnancy, any
decision that I made was entirely rational.
It is unfortunate that - on
the face of it - yes, one message that may come through is that somehow a
section means a live baby. However, this is one story of how parents
come to terms with a subsequent pregnancy and birth and with it - all the
dilemmas, decisions and choices that have to be made. As yet we don't
how the decision to have an elective was made - and I await the sequel with
real interest.
Personally speaking, I thought Losing Layla was an
important film in trying to show just what parents go through at such a
devastating period. I hope that the sequel will be as equally important
in showing what it is like to go through pregnancy again - something which I
found many people found it difficult to comprehend.
Debbie
Slater Perth, WA
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