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Hi,
I also had an emergency c-section for the
birth of my 3rd daughter and although it was necessary I was devastated,
probably allot like your client. It took me months to get over it, I grieved and
I had to take time and allot of emotion to work through what happened, I also
ended up with PND.
I also find it hard to understand the
attitude of woman who are so blasé about the whole thing, sometimes I think I
possibly annoy people with the stance of a c-section not being a
"childbirth choice" and an emergency or medically needed operation. Seems to
annoy these woman greatly who feel they ought to be able to choose between
vaginal and c-section as their basic options. I'm afraid I may have annoyed the
woman on the EB forum by saying this...Although of course I value there
opinions, and am aware that not everyone will agree with mine, sometimes I just
get so dam passionate about it!
Kirsten
Bmid student
Darwin
----- Original Message -----
Sent: Monday, May 31, 2004 9:46 PM
Subject: [ozmidwifery] 60minutes
Last night I returned home from a birth of a client which
resulted in an emergency c/s. Since starting my caseload job in January
this is the first of my clients whose birth has ended this way and it has left
me feeling very saddened, as I know my client will really grieve for the
experience of a vaginal birth. While she knows the c/s was absolutely
necessary, due to quite profound fetal distress, it really annoys me that her
birth experience will be pushed aside by the type of people who, from reading
the lists' discussion, were reporting on 60 minutes. So many people
think there is nothing wrong with having a c/s, it is just another mode to
deliver the baby, and what was being reported on 60 minutes will confirm
what these people think: that it is a viable, safe way to have their
baby. My client has already been told that "at least she has a
healthy baby, so what is all the fuss about" etc etc, and I feel very sorry
for her as so many people cannot appreciate her sense of loss. She is
already talking about "next time" and how things may be done differently in
order to achieve a vaginal birth, and I can only hope she has some
understanding family and friends she can share these discussions
with.
From a professional point of view, as I watched the events
unfold in theatre with all the doctors and theatre staff rushing about,the
bright lights, the noise, the incidental conversations, the petrified
look on my client and her partners face, the thrusting of her body as the
doctor was trying to get the baby's head from out of her pelvis, I was
thinking to myself that some people choose this way to give birth!!!
Give me a vaginal birth anyday.
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