Babies! They change so quickly just when we have in fact decided that sleep promotes sleep (which at a certain ange and stage with certain babies it does) then they go and change! It seems to always be a compromise between our needs and their's. My 3 biological children stoped having sleeps around 2 (usually just as I had the next baby). But, when they didn't have a sleep they'd go to bed at 7.30, which suited me perfectly. If they had a sleep - fell asleep in the car or such, they'd be up til 11 or later. And even 1/2 an hr nap would mean 3 hrs delayed bedtime - how does that work? Even now, my 11 yr old is up at 6am, bringing the rest of the family with him. Still, while it was a bit early for me, I coped better getting up early than having to stay up late. My husband considers 5 hrs sleep per night a veritable sleep in - no wonder the kids don't need lots of sleep. Guan is a much better sleeper-iner that her siblings, though tends to be more of a night owl. I always think breasts are such fabulous things for putting an end to an over-tired 2yr old tantrum, and getting them to sleep extra fast when mum's had enough. For the life of me I don't understand the current info that's often given not to feed to sleep. A couple of minutes and they are out for the count, as the breast knock-out drops do their thing. And some-times you make that decision that you'll put up with the staying up late if you get an hr some time in the day to finish something that needs to be done, or have a quiet coffee with a friend. ----- Original Message ----- From: "Pinky McKay" <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> To: <[email protected]> Sent: Monday, January 03, 2005 7:23 AM Subject: Re: [ozmidwifery] Fwd: Message for Ozmid board
> "every child is different !!" > > I agree wholeheartedly with you here Jo. Lets remember this is why 'one size > fits all' advice so often makes mothers feel inadequate. Also, what works > for a while may not work another time - even for the same child. So much is > trial and error - and surrender! > > I frequently find that when a mother is supported to ignore the pressures of > how much/ how often a baby or child "should' sleep, and sees her child as > the individual spirit he/she is, she will work out what is best for her > child/ family. Amazingly, (or perhaps not) this confidence seems to be a big > factor in the child 'miraculously' settling. > > Pinky > www.pinky-mychild.com > > > > ----- Original Message ----- > From: "Jo Bourne" <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> > To: <[email protected]> > Sent: Saturday, January 01, 2005 4:56 AM > Subject: Re: [ozmidwifery] Fwd: Message for Ozmid board > > > >I have to respectfully disagree, all the "the more they sleep the more they > >sleep" advice to the contrary my daughter goes to sleep in record time the > >days she skips her nap and is up 2 hours past her bedtime if we let her nap > >too long or too late. It is sheer hell.... Every child is different, I > >don't think it helps anyone to say that all kids sleep better at night if > >they sleep better during the day because it just makes those of us with > >different sleepers feel worse. > > > > cheers > > Jo > > > > At 6:27 PM +1000 1/1/05, Fiona & Craig Rumble wrote: > >>? > >>Hi all just thought I'd throw in my 5 cents worth on the sleeping in the > >>day subject. > >>My first child refused to sleep during the day at all, unless I was > >>wearing her in a sling (or we were at a NMAA meeting when she would make a > >>liar of me and blissfully sleep in the capsule). When I became pregnant > >>with no. 2 when 1st was 1 year I thought I was in trouble as I needed a > >>nap! Luckily at 14 months she decided a daytime sleep would be OK! > >>I am a firm believer that the better a child sleeps during the day, the > >>better they sleep at night, and have never personally known an occasion > >>when keeping a child from having a sleep during the day helped them to > >>sleep at night. Child just gets over-tired and harder to get to sleep. > >>The least stress is the best, so stay calm and enjoy your little ones. > >>Soon they are all growed up and hard to get to go to bed and even harder > >>to get out of bed! > >>Cheers Fiona > > > > > > -- > > Jo Bourne > > Virtual Artists Pty Ltd > > -- > > This mailing list is sponsored by ACE Graphics. > > Visit <http://www.acegraphics.com.au> to subscribe or unsubscribe. > > > > > -- > This mailing list is sponsored by ACE Graphics. > Visit <http://www.acegraphics.com.au> to subscribe or unsubscribe. > -- This mailing list is sponsored by ACE Graphics. Visit <http://www.acegraphics.com.au> to subscribe or unsubscribe.
