What does gobsmacked mean? Vedrana From:
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Behalf Of Janet Fraser I wonder
if anyone does these or similar in On the Joyous
Birth forums there is a private section specifically for fathers who have been
present at births which were traumatic. We also support them in planning, with
their partners, for subsequent births in a more empowered and informed
way. We have dads at Joyous Birth meetings in Melbourne, Brisbane and Sydney
where they have access to all our books, videos and the like. Many men who
attend home births, especially after experiencing how unnecessary they often
are in the hospital hierarchy, become great advocates of woman centred birth. When I ran that
article past the dad who moderates that forum, he was gobsmacked that
anyone could find the normal, natural processes of birth anything other than
wondrous. He sat like a deaf mute, through fear, watching his wife scream
through repeated unwanted VEs, with the staff demanding that he help hold her
still. He was sent home at one point as her induced labour ramped up because
the hospital was having building done and she was forced to labour in one large
room with other unsupported labouring women. He saw her repeatedly jabbed in
the leg with pethidine without her knowledge or consent - it was done in the
middle of a cx and she would ask what had been given to her when she came out
of the pain. Eventually all this led to caesarean and the staff refusing both
him and his wife the chance to hold their baby for many many hours. She is
still recovering from PTSD 3 years later and after a great deal of work, they
have reclaimed their marriage and are planning a home birth. He can't wait to
actually be involved and be able to support his wife. And she can't wait to
hold her own baby as soon as it's born. I think the
pathologising of even normal, physiological birth has led us to this sad
situation. We have at least
one couple who have divorced partly over the husband supporting the hospital to
pressure the wife into an unnecessary (and second!) "elective"
caesarean. The physical injury she sustained from that operation was terrible,
not to mention the PTSD, and she says in retrospect she didn't realise how much
his attitude would impact negatively on their marriage, let alone her birth
experience. So now she's single and dreaming of a HBA2C for her future. J |
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