----- Original Message ----- From: "Poly" <[EMAIL PROTECTED]>
Subject: Re: OT: OMG... <irrelevant stuff snipped> Who the hell let a four year old onto the list? Bob Blakely posted this some years ago in reply to Antonio Aparicio. It bears repeating, given the recent arrival of the polymanchild, who, like Antonio, seems to be a person of limited intellectual resources. "All groups of people have unwritten rules of social interaction. Most rules of social interaction revolve around respect. If someone treats another without respect, ALL members of the group take note. If the disrespecting member is new, this behavior is all the group knows of them and they will form their impressions accordingly. If the member is long standing, the group has a base wherein to judge the behavior as not usual for the offender. Members may not like the disruption in the group, but will understand when a member defends him/herself when attacked, but they will be irritated if it goes on too long. That's because the group is more important than the individual. Respected members of the group apologize, not just for their transgressions, but also for being part of an offensive interchange. They do this without any "but's", "if's" or "however's" or other self justifications. Most folks learn this in kindergarten. Some do not. They sit around wondering why folks are reacting to them the way they are, and spend much of their interchange blaming others. Some folks are simply abrasive by nature. Others are just so narcissistic that they cannot see or acknowledge, even to themselves, their abrasiveness and transgressions and are therefore incapable of changing or apologizing." -- PDML Pentax-Discuss Mail List PDML@pdml.net http://pdml.net/mailman/listinfo/pdml_pdml.net to UNSUBSCRIBE from the PDML, please visit the link directly above and follow the directions.
