Is that the right way to do it?
https://dbfiddle.uk/?rdbms=postgres_14&fiddle=7bd74243397da61ddc4c216ad919c7cc
WITH myself AS (
SELECT uid
FROM words_social
WHERE social = in_social
AND sid = in_sid
LIMIT 1
)
SELECT
CASE WHEN c.uid = myself.uid THEN 1 ELSE 0 END,
c.msg
FROM myself
JOIN words_chat c ON TRUE
JOIN words_games g USING (gid)
JOIN words_users opponent ON (opponent.uid IN (g.player1,
g.player2) AND opponent.uid <> myself.uid)
WHERE c.gid = in_gid
-- always show myself my own chat messages
AND c.uid = myself.uid
-- otherwise only show messages by not muted opponents
OR NOT opponent.muted
ORDER BY c.created ASC;