... may be this is named as "dark side of love " ... : ))
"Carla Annamarie" <[EMAIL PROTECTED] Re: [ppiindia] A Soulfull Relationship ial.co.id> 31/01/2005 12:20 Please respond to ppiindia love is not blind..love can see even in the dark.. many ppl gotta so blindly in love before married..and after that one morning wake up in morning..look at someone beside them and say..gosh...i married.. a beast..:)).. so better think clear before u got mess up.. [EMAIL PROTECTED] To: ppiindia@yahoogroups.com 01/31/2005 11:58 cc: AM Subject: Re: [ppiindia] A Soulfull Relationship Please respond to ppiindia btw how could the eyes open ... if love is blind, i think both of your eyes should be opened after getting married bcs you married with a pirate, .... he has robbed your heart ... : )) falling in love means that love is blind, but if fall from a stage means that both of your eyes were blind ... so why the theme of the cartun film is "beauty and the beast" he .. he .. bcs ... love is blind ... : )) except ... neh .. rgds "Carla Annamarie" <[EMAIL PROTECTED] Re: [ppiindia] A Soulfull Relationship ial.co.id> 27/01/2005 15:54 Please respond to ppiindia btw that's why before getting married just make sure to keep both of ur eyes wide open.., so u wont ended up married with a pirate..:)).. [EMAIL PROTECTED] To: ppiindia@yahoogroups.com 01/27/2005 03:59 cc: PM Subject: Re: [ppiindia] A Soulfull Relationship Please respond to ppiindia its very good proverb, but in my mind in a glance i remember, that after marry is look like sailing with its husband ..a pirate .... : )) but he didn't close his eye ... the eye just only one ...another is cover with black thing. heheee may be its mean that deciding to marry is ready to accept a pirate in your live heheeee.. sorry just joking ..... : )) rgds "Carla Annamarie" <[EMAIL PROTECTED] [ppiindia] A Soulfull Relationship ial.co.id> 27/01/2005 08:22 Please respond to ppiindia A Soulfull Relationship An African proverb states, "Before you get married, keep both eyes open, and after you marry, close one eye." Before you get involved and make a commitment to someone, don't let lust, desperation, immaturity, ignorance, pressure from others or a low self- esteem make you blind to warning signs. Keep your eyes open, and don't fool yourself that you can change someone or that what you see as faults aren't really important. Once you decide to commit to someone, over time their flaws, vulnerabilities, pet pee ves, and differences will become more obvious. If you love your mate and want the relationship to grow and evolve, you've got to learn to close one eye and not let every little thing bother you. You and your mate have many different expectations, emotional needs, values, dreams, weaknesses, and strengths. You are two unique individuals who have decided to share a life together. Neither of you are perfect, but are you perfect for each other? Do you bring out the best of each other? Do you compliment and compromise with each other, or do you compete, compare, and control? What do you bring to the relationship? Do you bring past relationships, past hurt, past mistrust, past pain? You can't take someone to the altar to alter him or her. You can't make someone love you or make someone stay. If you develop self-esteem, spiritual discernment, and "a life", you won't find yourself making someone else responsible for your happiness or responsible for your pain. Manipulation, control, jealousy, neediness, and selfishness are not the ingredients of a thriving, healthy, loving and lasting relationship. Seeking status, sex, wealth, and security are the wrong reasons to be in a relationship. What keeps a relationship strong? Communication, intimacy, trust, a sense of humor, sharing household tasks, some getaway time without business or children and daily exchanges (a meal, shared activity, a hug, a call, a touch, a note). Leave a nice message on their voicemail or send a nice email. Sharing common goals and interests. Growth is important. Grow together, not away from each other, giving each other space to grow without feeling insecure. Allow your mate to have outside interest. You can't always be together. 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