Michael J. Babcock, MCP wrote: > I pay $nnn to my not-soon-enough-ex-wife monthly for my 2 kids' child > support. I get pissed because I know she's not spending ($nnn times 2) > on the kids. > > Shouldn't it be a 50/50 thing, where she pays an equal amount on the kids? > > Also, I know that those monies go towards expenditures incurred because of > the kids--school expenses, groceries, heating (oil), electricity, water, > garbage, health insurance, clothing, etc. What I don't think should count > are expenses my n-s-e-e-w would incur had she NOT had the kids--like the > mortgage, car payment, auto insurance, etc. > > Would appreciate perspective from others, even if just to set me straight. >
I don't think anyone should 'set you straight'. Every couple is a whole different world. I was married 5 years, had a girl who's now 25yo. We divorced by mutual consent and if there was a legal amount we never payed attention. When I had no money my ex would support the child, for may years I supported the child and finally we both put up what was needed. Nowadays my girl is attending university, my ex has no steady job so some months she has trouble making ends meet, so I support all my girl's expenses and I give my ex enough so that ends meet. After all, how could I live ok, have my girl live ok while her mother 'starves' (or whatever). I once loved her enough to live with her and have a child, we have shared my girl's upbringing, so I feel myself responsible in a certain way for her well being. Of course within my economic limits. OTOH, once when I was sick, hospitalized and got out, my ex took me in. I slept in her bed, she slept on the floor, and fed and cared for me for a month. So I guess between us it goes both ways. Of course that is only my experience, and has probably nothing to do with your couple. But think that you once loved that woman, and that she will still be your kids' mother no matter how bad you two get along, and that if their mother has a bad time so will they. No matter how fair or unfair the thing is. So maybe you are doing it for your kids' sake even if she takes advantage of that. _______________________________________________ Post Messages to: ProFox@leafe.com Subscription Maintenance: http://leafe.com/mailman/listinfo/profox OT-free version of this list: http://leafe.com/mailman/listinfo/profoxtech Searchable Archive: http://leafe.com/archives/search/profox This message: http://leafe.com/archives/byMID/profox/[EMAIL PROTECTED] ** All postings, unless explicitly stated otherwise, are the opinions of the author, and do not constitute legal or medical advice. This statement is added to the messages for those lawyers who are too stupid to see the obvious.
