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From: Sunny <am...@tele2.se> >To: undisclosed-recipi...@yahoo.com >Sent: Thursday, January 12, 2012 3:35 PM >Subject: [proletar] The Horrors of Domestic Violence in Indonesia > > > >http://www.thejakartaglobe.com/lawandorder/the-horrors-of-domestic-violence-in-indonesia/490057 >The Horrors of Domestic Violence in Indonesia >Irfan Kortschak | January 09, 2012’’ > >A picture taken of Santi after being burned by her husband. (Photo Poriaman >Sitanggang/PSF) > >In the communal violence that afflicted Ambon at the end of the 20th century, >up to 13,000 men, women and children died, and many more were maimed and >injured. Large numbers of people participated in, suffered from or witnessed >acts of extreme violence, and many saw family members and friends being >killed. Entire communities were driven from their homes and villages. > >For the more vulnerable members of the community, particularly women and >children, the communal violence often exacerbated violence they experienced at >home at the hands of husbands, fathers and brothers. Violence against women in >Indonesia is to a large degree not acknowledged or recognized as a problem, as >incest, rape and domestic violence are all taboo subjects. Women who are >beaten, tortured or abused by their husbands may be isolated from community >support. > >To provide psychological services to women and others suffering from violence, >a group of six female psychologist-activists established the Pulih Foundation >in 2001. > >One of the worst cases of domestic violence in Ambon involved Santi, whose >husband doused her with kerosene and set her on fire. In 2010, activists from >Pulih drew attention to Santi’s case in the national media. Plastic surgeon >Enrina Diah offered to provide her services without charge, and various donors >raised funds to support a series of grueling operations involving many hours >of complicated surgical procedures. Following these operations, Santi is now >able to care for her son by herself, and to work to support them both. > >Here she describes the incident that lead to her disfigurement. > >Santi > >My husband set me on fire in 2003. I was in the hospital for eight months. He >was held at a police station for three months, but he was never charged. The >police let him go, saying there weren’t any witnesses to prove there was a >crime. But he tried to kill me. He picked up a plastic bucket when I was still >burning and he put it over my head and held it there. The plastic melted all >over my face. He wanted me to die. Of course he wasn’t going to kill me in >front of witnesses. > >Later, my husband said that the stove had exploded. When I was still in the >hospital, he came and threatened me. He made me say that’s what happened. When >the police took my first statement, that’s what I told them. Later, I told >them what really happened, but they said it was only my word against my >husband’s. My husband’s father used to be in the Air Force but is now retired >and receives a pension. The police don’t want to get involved in a case >involving a relative of the military. > >My husband used to hit me often, usually when he was drunk. I hated him when >he was drunk. Yet, I never asked for a divorce. My father left my mother when >I was a young girl and I didn’t want to be like my mother and raise my child >without his father. > >My son’s name is Rezza and he is 8. He lives with my former mother-in-law, who >lives about one kilometer away. I’d like to look after him myself, but I >can’t. I can’t lift my arms. I can’t move my head. I can’t eat normally >because the food falls out of my mouth. I can’t look after my own child. > >My mother-in-law is good to me. She often sends me rice, let me build a house >on her property and sometimes gives me money. Still, she has never talked to >me about what her son did. After my husband tried to kill me, he moved back >with her and found himself a new wife. He suffered no indignation from the >villagers and no one in his family blamed him. In Ambon, it’s normal for men >to hit their wives if they talk back. When I visit my boy, I see my ex-husband >fight with his new wife. I heard he’s threatened to do to her what he did to >me if she doesn’t watch herself. > >I want an operation. I don’t care about the way I look, but I want to be >self-reliant. I want to get a job or run a business. There are a lot of >factories in this area. If I could move my arms, I could get a job in a >factory and look after my own child. I wouldn’t be dependent on my >mother-in-law. > >The doctors said I’d need to go to Makassar or Surabaya to have an operation, >but I can’t afford to go. When I got out of the hospital, I went to the local >newspaper to show them what happened. I thought that if they published a story >about me, someone might give me the money to have the operation. That’s how I >met Ibu Leli, a journalist at the newspaper. > >Several newspapers published my story, and the deputy mayor promised the local >government would pay for my operation. But later, whenever I went to try to >see her, her staff would say she was busy or sick or in a meeting. In the end, >I gave up and never got anything. > >I went to the deputy mayor’s office by public transportation. I’m not ashamed >of the way I look because I know it’s not my fault this happened and I’m not >going to let it stop me from going out. People in the street are mostly kind >to me. > >I want to be independent, I want to be able to earn money to look after >myself, and I want somewhere to live. I don’t want to be dependent on my >mother-in-law and I don’t want to live alone. I’d like to live with Leli and >Augustina. I’d like to live with women who have been through the same kind of >thing I have, in a place where we could look after and help each other. I’d >like to live with other women like me because they would understand. > >This story first appeared in “Invisible People: Poverty and Empowerment in >Indonesia,” published by the PNPM Support Facility, a government of Indonesia, >multidonor partnership for reducing poverty through community action. For more >information about this book, see www.wayang.net/Invisible_People. The >interview with Santi was facilitated by activists from the Pulih Foundation >(www.pulih.or.id). > >[Non-text portions of this message have been removed] > > > > > [Non-text portions of this message have been removed] ------------------------------------ Post message: prole...@egroups.com Subscribe : proletar-subscr...@egroups.com Unsubscribe : proletar-unsubscr...@egroups.com List owner : proletar-ow...@egroups.com Homepage : http://proletar.8m.com/Yahoo! Groups Links <*> To visit your group on the web, go to: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/proletar/ <*> Your email settings: Individual Email | Traditional <*> To change settings online go to: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/proletar/join (Yahoo! ID required) <*> To change settings via email: proletar-dig...@yahoogroups.com proletar-fullfeatu...@yahoogroups.com <*> To unsubscribe from this group, send an email to: proletar-unsubscr...@yahoogroups.com <*> Your use of Yahoo! Groups is subject to: http://docs.yahoo.com/info/terms/
