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--- In proletar@yahoogroups.com, "bukan.pedanda" <bukan.pedanda@...> wrote: > > > Inilah antara lain yang mestinya ditiru oleh orang Indonesia dari Belanda: > hubungan kekeluargaan yang yang memungkinkan rata-rata anak itu merasa > bahagia. > > -- > > BBC NEWS > Why are Dutch children so happy? > By Kathryn Westcott > BBC News website > > Dutch children have been rated the most fortunate children in Europe. Their > parents go out of their way to please them, and teachers expect less of them > than some of their European counterparts. > > The Netherlands has come top of a league table for child well-being across 21 > industrialised countries. > > The study by the UN children's organisation, Unicef, looked at relative > poverty, educational and health standards, sexual behaviour and the > children's relationship with friends and parents. > > "The Netherlands has always been a very child-centred society," says Paul > Vangeert, professor of developmental psychology at the University of > Groningen. "In particular, there is a lot of focus on young children." > > He says he is not surprised by the report. "On the one hand you have > objective indicators in the report like health, income and education. The > Netherlands is a very rich country. On the other hand, and perhaps more > importantly, are the subjective indicators, young people's own subjective > sense of well-being." > > CHILD WELL-BEING TABLE > # 1. Netherlands > # 2. Sweden > # 3. Denmark > # 4. Finland > # 5. Spain > # 6. Switzerland > # 7. Norway > # 8. Italy > # 9. Republic of Ireland > # 10. Belgium > # 11. Germany > # 12. Canada > # 13. Greece > # 14. Poland > # 15. Czech Republic > # 16. France > # 17. Portugal > # 18. Austria > # 19. Hungary > # 20. United States > # 21. United Kingdom Source: Unicef > Much of this, he says, comes from the relationship that Dutch parents have > with their children. And, from the fact that less pressure is put on them at > school. > > "If you take the percentage of young mothers in the labour force, it's not > very high in comparison to comparable countries," Mr Vangeert told the BBC > News Website. "There is a strong tendency for mothers to raise children or > take a long time off work after children are born." > > He says children are used to a "highly protective, highly positive caring > environment." > > Children rule > > One of the strong points of the Dutch family, he says, is that it is very > open and communicative. Relations are generally good between parents and > children and they can talk about almost anything. > > But, he says, the downside is that children almost rule the family. > > "It's almost a caricature that children are the ones that decide what happens > within the family," says Mr Vangeert. "Their wishes become so strong that > parents have to work very hard to give them what they want. Sometimes, there > can be a lack of balance between the happiness of the child and that of the > parent." > > 18-year-old Ysbrand, a student in Helmond near Eindhoven, says this picture > matched his childhood. He says that his parents spent a lot of time with him > when he was younger. His mother stayed at home while his father worked. > > But, he said the contrast when you get to 18 can be something of a shock. > > "Now I'm left to look after myself," he told the BBC News website. "My > parents say that I need to care for myself and to be independent. It's hard. > I don't have much money as a student and to go out is expensive. Beer, for > example, is very expensive in the Netherlands." > > He says that while he has been drinking and smoking for some time, his > parents have never really seen it as a big issue. > > "They've never liked it," he says. "But they realise that they were young > once. They are just waiting for me to give it up in my own time." > > HAVE YOUR SAY > " The UK and the USA are too commercial and market driven " > Kenneth Whyte, Oegstgeest, Netherlands > The Dutch are famous for their liberal attitudes towards drinks, drugs and > sex. > > "Because parents are more relaxed, the dynamics of the problems are less > severe than in countries where they are seen as more of a serious issue," > says Mr Vangeert. > > Laura Vos, a 16-year-old schoolgirl from Amsterdam agrees. > > "In this country, it's very free, you can do anything you want," she told the > BBC's Newsnight programme. "You can smoke at 16, you can buy pot in the store > next to the school. You can do what you like and because it's not illegal, > it's not that interesting for us to provoke our parents with it." > > REPORT CATEGORIES > # Material well-being > # Family and peer relationships > # Health and safety > # Behaviour and risks > # Own sense of well-being [educational] > # Own sense of well-being [subjective] > > Schoolfriend Michell Klimt told the BBC that she thought that teenagers in > other countries had to deal with the type of peer pressure that her friends > did not have to even consider. > > "I think in England, for example, there is a lot of pressure on teenagers. > There is something on MTV called Virgin Diaries. Girls of 16 and 17 worry > because they are still virgins. It's like they have to have sex to be cool," > she says. > > "In Holland, it isn't that important - it doesn't matter to anyone." > > Rutt Veenhoven, professor of social conditions for human happiness at Erasmus > University in Rotterdam, says he was unsurprised by the report's findings. > > "Small affluent countries such as the Netherlands and Denmark are very > democratic and very free. There is also a very good education system. People > can use that freedom and education to make the right choices," he says. > > Selma el Maknouzi, a 16-year-old student from The Hague says young people in > the Netherlands have a lot to look forward to. > > "I'm very happy with the education here because it's at a very high level," > she told the BBC News website. "Everybody has the chance and the opportunity > to do whatever he or she wants to do. There are many jobs - everyone can work > and there are opportunities to build a good career in later life." > > Mr Veenhoven says that the general picture is pretty much in keeping with > what he has seen in samples of the adult population. He says that typically > in Western Europe countries like the Netherlands and Denmark score > particularly well. > > "And we know that happy adults raise happy children," he says. > > Story from BBC NEWS: > http://news.bbc.co.uk/go/pr/fr/-/2/hi/europe/6360517.stm > > Published: 2007/02/14 18:26:15 GMT > > © BBC 2011 > ------------------------------------ Post message: prole...@egroups.com Subscribe : proletar-subscr...@egroups.com Unsubscribe : proletar-unsubscr...@egroups.com List owner : proletar-ow...@egroups.com Homepage : http://proletar.8m.com/Yahoo! 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