Its all in here for those using exim4 http://www.exim.org/exim-html-current/doc/html/spec_html/ch-the_default_configuration_file.html
I went into /etc/exim4 and ran this command to find where the deny message is stored, which lead me to the regex variable CHECK_RCPT_LOCAL_LOCALPARTS. So I searched for it, updated the values and restarted exim: grep -r CHECK_RCPT_LOCAL_LOCALPARTS * -- https://mail.python.org/mailman/listinfo/python-list