hi, I am so sorry to hear about what's going on with you when you were most in need of support from a friend. To me it sounds like you have a real drama queen on your hands. Has that thought ever crossed your mind?
Lucinda C-4,5 complete July 31, '05 Mpls., MN --- On Sun, 11/20/11, Candle <[email protected]> wrote: From: Candle <[email protected]> Subject: [QUAD-L] People can be so awful To: "[email protected]" <[email protected]> Date: Sunday, November 20, 2011, 2:49 PM Sorry about this rant before the holidays. My top problem is people who act like my health problems are to spite them. My ex-best friend resents the attention that I get or how people might go out of their way to help me or make things easier for me. Basically, because I have learned to walk again and don't leave my house unless I can walk decently (some days I cannot walk and my body won't work and I am forced to stay in bed) people will help open doors or move things out of my way to be nice. She acts like she is competing with me for attention. She is very self centered and when we were friends, I always made excuses for her. Lately, I have been told that she has been bad mouthing me and even blames my health as if I am trying to bother her. I used to babysit for her, but lately, my good days are less and less. Since her children are high maintenance and have behavior problems, I don't watch them because if I am stuck in bed, I cannot keep them from getting into things or from teasing our pets. One child teased the dogs so badly that one dog bit the child leaving teeth marks without breaking the skin. I can see how my lack of babysitting interferes with her social life, but so what. She can hire someone to babysit. I used to do it for free. She also acts like everyone who is nice to me is suddenly ignoring her. It is driving me nuts. I'll trade places with her any day if she feels so neglected. It is pathetic and it has been wearing on my nerves. We are the god parents of her three children and we dote on them whenever we can. Her husband and my husband are close friends and have been for over 30 years. We have to go over to their house for Thanksgiving. They have invited extended family and I dread the idea of her fluttering around acting like she is afraid of missing something. She will act like she is trying to get everyone to pay attention to her and if someone tries to help me or make it easier for me, she will act like I did something to interrupt her time on stage. It is so odd to watch her. She really ruins social times for me. I have had other friends tell me how much she complains about me and my situation. I have confronted her only to have her try to lie which I totally didn't buy and I let her know it. I'm going to do my best to blend into the background and try to enjoy my time as much as possible. I have been dreading any social events for the last two or three years now. I have been avoiding her and her moods so much that I have narrowed my friends to only people she does not know so I won't see her at social events. I told my husband that I even want to change churches because of how bad she is. Thank goodness my husband has been so supportive of me. He has seen her act crazy and understands. He is willing to change churches with me. It bothers him to see her get "bitchy" because someone tried to be nice to me. We try to keep our opinions to ourselves because we don't want her to suddenly keep the kids from us. She did that a few years ago and the kids really noticed and got upset. At that time, we were going to take her youngest shopping for her birthday. She wanted a specific boot that was on sale at the mall. It was over two months before we could see the kids let alone take the youngest shopping. By that time, the boots were sold out. So the kid had to pick something else and she was very sweet about it, but you could tell it bothered her. I do seem to know the strange people of the world. Candle "Scars remind of us where we’ve been, they don’t have to dictate where we are going." ~David Rossi of Criminal Minds***********************************************************************
