Well, that is great that the agency is going to report her and give you another nurse. I am also glad that this particular nurse only *said *something stupid, rude and ignorant - you didn't get hurt terribly physically by a nurse like I did - twice. I have written this year on the list numerous times but I will say it again and then what happened to me by another nurse before that several years before that:
The first assigned nurse who changed my catheter in 2016 just 2 weeks after moving back out to Arizona stretched my urethra beyond repair and it required surgery. Not only did she do that but when she came out the one and only time she was their "on-call" nurse and she didn't want to be here. She was the most egotistic, arrogant nurse and person! It was not until after she left whereby I knew something right away was wrong. I knew that I was not being able to urinate through my catheter so I asked my new live-in caregiver (who was not yet familiar with seeing my catheter changed) to see if my urethral catheter was actually IN. She looked and conceived the bulb sitting right there ready to come out. The nurse had not been gone too long so we call her right away. She didn't think it could possibly be the bulb to the catheter and said that my aide was probably just seeing flesh because there is a lot of flesh 'down there' with females. Well, my aide could see that it was *not *flesh. She wasn't stupid! The nurse said that she had already gotten on the interstate and would have to turn around but that's what she had to. She didn't like it but that is what she had to do. Unfortunately, enough time had gone by and was just enough time for the inflated bulb to stretch out my urethra too far (45 minutes). I tried to get a lawyer and the lawyer I first spoke to said that he could possibly help me IF I needed surgery and when I found out I did I kept trying to call him back (he told me to call any time) he didn't return any of my phone calls and then finally had one of his staff members that dealt with medical malpractice called me (like he couldn't himself?) saying that there was no way I could "prove" she did it which was the truth. So that attorney would not help me as it would not be feasible for them to try and prove something that couldn't be actually proven. I tried a different attorney and was told the same thing. :-( The only other time I was hurt by a nurse (and it was just as bad) was when a nurse came when I had my pressure sore and she was required to measure it for my doctor. Neither my husband nor I knew that she had taken a piece of paper from her bag (and not a sterile strip for measuring things) whereby she infected it so badly that it *spread *like any open wound exposed to bacteria and therefore causing an infection would do so it turned into a Stage I wound to a Stage III wound which had me bedridden for a great deal of 3 years. It had to be debreeded by a wound doctor who turned out to be the best doctor in the entire state but it still took 7 visits every other week with me being in bed the rest of the time because each and every time I would get up shearing would take place and a bubble would form which would eventually break open. Just going over the slightest threshold did that. Thankfully, now all of that comprised wound area is fine but having back-to-back bladder infections which I simply don't understand because we are doing absolutely, unequivocally everything correctly. I just got those infections from the hospitals I was going to or had to go to because that type of bacteria was never present in my urine prior to going to them. I couldn't do anything about the nurse who infected me with a strip of paper from her bag (god knows how many homes she visits/visited back then) because we did not realize that it was actually infected by her until it was too late. The nurse was not so friendly anyway and then the agency gave me an ultimatum (just because they were a-holes) and having to sign some full document (I can't remember what it was all about now) that no one in their right mind would sign. They said if we didn't sign it they would drop us. Well, in the meantime, a nurse that became my nurse through them (*after *the nurse who infected my wound left the agency or something) left them also because this agency was was changing her paperwork (and she was a SUPER nurse so why they were doing that is beyond me or her - they were just playing evil). Anyway, like I said, she decided to leave them and told us privately what they were doing to her and she also told us she knew about the letter they were putting together that they would want to have us sign - so she said she was going to first contact an attorney (about what they were doing to her) but then didn't want to go through that whole rigmarole and just joined another agency and told me I should sign up with this other agency and she could become my nurse through them. Which was what happened and between her and my husband being my wound care specialists... my wound slowly begin to heal even though it took a long time. I have been very leery of nurses ever since those two extremely bad (understatement) things happening to me by nurses and I couldn't do a damn thing about it. I like the nurse that I have right now but sometimes she asks me the stupidest questions or wants me to stop doing something that has been working for me for a decade and things like that. Otherwise, she is looking out for my best interest and does a great job of changing my SP catheter, getting me the supplies I need, etc. Also, unless you can find a physician or you have been in the hospital for something... it is very hard to find an agency who will take you on full time and that is what I need. My live-in caregiver needs all the help she can get. My husband and I had some home health aide help before his unexpected passing (4 mornings a week to do my care) and we hired another caregiver to do the other 3 mornings. So my husband had some help. We had more help the first two years we were married (1997 through 1999) until the Clinton administration changed Medicare rules (I am not eligible for any Medicaid help) whereby I used to get 2 visits every morning and every evening, 7 days a week. After the changes were made in 1999 that was cut back to almost zero and it's been like pulling teeth trying to get more help so I have to pay for it all. That's what I get for going to college and being fully employed and having my husband having a great job and now being on his Social Security but it only goes so far when you have to pay someone around-the-clock. When I lived with family I hired FANTASTIC morning and evening caregivers (the original plan for me moving in with them after my beloved husband's death) but after only 3 years the family "share the care" set up with my 2 adult nieces, my 2 sisters and brother-in-laws were all doing a little something - I guess that was not enough. It was mostly my brother-in-law. I should have known when my husband and I approached my sister if they would consider a "family plan" if, god forbid, something were to happen to him in her response to him at that time (2007). His heart was broken back then when she responded like she did and saying she would never consider such a thing and had absolutely no obligation to help me. Like I've said so many times before here... that was a total lie when she told my mother on her deathbed that I would be taken care of as well as my grandparents were still alive. Underground secrets, underground family lies that no one who actually knows them now would ever believe but it's the truth. :-( I've learned that the direct bloodline from my mother to my grandparents and then my loving spouse wanted me to be taken care of and live with them but not my sisters or their husbands!!! ~Lori On Sat, Jan 5, 2019 at 5:23 PM Bobbie Humphreys <bobbiehumphre...@gmail.com> wrote: > So you know, I didn't say anything to the stupid nurse but I did call the > agency and she gasped and told me she was going to report her to a > supervisor and give me another nurse. > Bobbie > > On Jan 5, 2019, at 6:42 PM, Jim Lubin <jlu...@eskimo.com> wrote: > > I read my mom your message, she said, "what an ignrant bitch!" > > On Sat, Jan 5, 2019 at 2:20 PM Bobbie Humphreys < > bobbiehumphre...@gmail.com> wrote: > >> I had a nurse, 3rd time here, come Tuesday. >> She asked me >> "How long have you been a quad"? >> I told her 46 years and she said as she looked to the ceiling ... very >> loudly >> "I thank God everyday that I'm not you"! >> >> What would have said and done? >> Bobbie > > -- "Petting, scratching and cuddling a dog could be soothing to the mind and heart and deep meditation and almost as good for the soul as prayer." ~Dean Koontz
