I've not known how to respond to Seth's accident and the pain that accompanies it. Michael's wise and poetic response is congruent with my feelings and far more articulate than anything I might say. -JimD
On Jan 11, 2014, at 4:07 PM, Michael Hechmer <mhech...@gmail.com> wrote: > Eunice, thank you for the update on how justice has moved in behalf of Seth. > > I hope and pray that you have been able to find some release from the pain of > your loss. I have been through my own grief, but not to be compared to > yours. I have also spent 13 years as a chaplain at a major medical center > and have been honored to walk with many families through their losses. > Ultimately, justice, however we may think about it, offers little help in > moving through grief. Grief is about letting go of what is gone, developing > a relationship with the memory, and developing a new relationship with life. > I hope and pray you can celebrate the good times and joy you had with Seth, > and find joy in your life now.. > > I have also spent 23 years supporting men in prison - leading workshops on > nonviolence at a maximum security youth facility, and teaching meditation at > a jail. Most of the men I have met have been people of color who suffered > from addiction. They needed to be in treatment, not punishment. Forgiveness > is a lot like grief because it requires letting go of the past and the desire > to change or avenge the past. I hope and pray that you not be stuck in the > past but are able to forgive, let go, and live, > > I also hope and pray you are able to find and receive the support you need > now. > > Blessings, > Michael > > On Thursday, January 9, 2014 10:15:49 AM UTC-5, Eunice Chang wrote: > I thought some of you might be interested in an update about Seth's case. > Yesterday was the sentencing/verdict. > > http://www.wral.com/man-pleads-guilty-in-durham-bicyclist-s-hit-and-run-death/13282993/ > > > http://www.heraldsun.com/news/showcase/x1401031508/Man-sentenced-to-12-to-24-months-in-bikers-death > > http://www.newsobserver.com/2014/01/08/3516480/hit-and-run-driver-to-serve-1.html > > Eunice > > > On Saturday, July 20, 2013 9:43:34 PM UTC-4, Eunice Chang wrote: > Hi- > > You don't know me, but I'm Seth's partner Eunice. I have debated sending > this, because I'm not really a Riv owner but thought you all might want to > know. > > The bike he rode when he was killed was his Romulus. I don't know where it > is, but it's probably being held for evidence. > > The other Riv bike he had, the Hilsen, was displayed prominently at his > memorial service. > > I also wanted to thank you for your condolences. > > -Eunice > > > > > On Tuesday, July 9, 2013 1:24:45 PM UTC-4, Jack wrote: > Friends, > > I am deeply saddened to share the news with you that my friend and longtime > Riv owner and active RBW list participant Seth Vidal was killed by a hit and > run driver last night here in Durham, NC. > > The latest info about the tragedy is here: > http://www.wral.com/bicyclist-killed-in-durham-hit-and-run/12639104/ > http://abclocal.go.com/wtvd/story?section=news/local&id=9166340 > > Kind regards > Jack > > --- > Jack Warman > Durham, NC > > > -- > You received this message because you are subscribed to the Google Groups > "RBW Owners Bunch" group. > To unsubscribe from this group and stop receiving emails from it, send an > email to rbw-owners-bunch+unsubscr...@googlegroups.com. > To post to this group, send email to rbw-owners-bunch@googlegroups.com. > Visit this group at http://groups.google.com/group/rbw-owners-bunch. > For more options, visit https://groups.google.com/groups/opt_out. -- You received this message because you are subscribed to the Google Groups "RBW Owners Bunch" group. To unsubscribe from this group and stop receiving emails from it, send an email to rbw-owners-bunch+unsubscr...@googlegroups.com. To post to this group, send email to rbw-owners-bunch@googlegroups.com. Visit this group at http://groups.google.com/group/rbw-owners-bunch. For more options, visit https://groups.google.com/groups/opt_out.
