Well spoken, John. I have been in that situation about three times in the last few years, and there is no feeling like the helplessness that accompanies it. I consider Tom to be a true friend, and right now I'm wondering if distance is enough of an excuse, in view of health issues I face currently, not to go see him and offer him some encouragement.
Bob Nicholson ______________________________________________________ --- In [email protected], "John" <armstong5717@...> wrote: > > NO ONE is compaining. Just sad, especialy if you knew him well. > Ever sit on a battlefield and watch a friend die..?????????????????? > You still rember it, in detail, 70 years later. > > John Armstrong > ----- Original Message ----- > From: Jim & Cheryl Martin > To: [email protected] > Sent: Tuesday, April 09, 2013 1:21 PM > Subject: Re: {S-Scale List} Tom Boldt and Hospice Care > > > > > How nice that Tom Boldt's death bed is being used as a complaints > department. > > Jim Martin > > > On April 9, 2013 at 12:45 PM "clipper841@..." <clipper841@...> wrote: > > > bob: > > how about the kits, and parts, that we ordered and paid for, over a year > ago? > mel perry > > > On Apr 9, 2013, at 7:24 AM, Bob McCarthy wrote: > > > > > Good morning! > > Having read this thread and based upon my experience with Lutheran > Hospice care here in South Carolina it is important to remember several > things about those who are passing from this life. > > 1) If they can have and want visitors, it is very useful to them > to have them. Even though we many feel pain and upset from their condition, > remember they are still there inside their damaged bodies. A smiling face, > squeeze of the hand, or the blink of an eye to acknowledge you may be all > they can do, but it means a lot to most patients. > > 2) We all will join Tom. It is hard on those of us living our > lives to see a friend or just some one we have known waste away. Just think > of them if it were you. It is better to suffer some minor mental discomfort > than to leave them totally alone to die. > > 3) Once a patient has accepted the forthcoming fact of death and > enetered into acceptence, then having people they know visit can make their > last months and days up lifting and pass with peace. > > Just my thoughts, > > Bob McCarthy > > > -------------------------------------------------------------------------- > From: shabbona_rr <user141771@...> > To: [email protected] > Sent: Tuesday, April 9, 2013 10:01 AM > Subject: {S-Scale List} Re: Tom Boldt > > > > > Thanks for the update on Tom Boldt, Gary. I knew him about as long as > you , at least from the early eighties, when we made a trip to his home in > Orchard Park, NY, to dismantle his layout and bring it to Cleveland so we > could have an operating layout at the NASG convention in 1982. > > In 1984, at his urging, I was conscripted to fill out the names on the > winner certificates of the various model contests because of my "exquisite" > penmanship; as Tom put it, it was so "exquisite" he couldn't read it! > > Ah, yes, fun times with fun friends. I miss those days, and Tom as > well. > > boB Nicholson ____________________________________________________ > > --- In [email protected], "grchud" <chudgr@> wrote: > > > > Group, > > Many of you have known Tom Boldt and are aware of his serious > condition! For those that donââ¬â¢t, Tom was a premier painter of brass > models some years back. His main interest was scale S and I became aware of > his illness, Lou Gehrigââ¬â¢s disease about five years ago. He resides at > a VA Home in Sandusky, Ohio, about thirty five miles from my home. I had > previously visited him about nine to twelve months ago and left his bedside > in a very depressed state. I have know Tom since 1985, when I first became > interested in scale S. He painted my first brass purchase, a NYC 19000 series > caboose that I bought from Walt Danylak, and many more items since. As a > matter of fact, Walt introduced me to Tom. We became good friends and shared > an interest in similar roads. Because of his interest in painting, he was > very knowledgeable of various road paint schemes! > > In the nineties, Tom had a run of bad luck, holding jobs for only a > short duration for various reasons. At different times, he had been employed > by Omnicon and American Models after moving west from New York. He also had > family/marital problems that weighted heavily on him! Tom began showing signs > of stress and his health began deteriorating, at my best recollection, about > ten years ago. His family was not sure if his condition was a result of > painting so many models, or his exposure to agent orange while serving his > country in Viet Nam during the 1960ââ¬â¢s. > > At any rate, my visit was not a pleasant experience, but I wanted to > find out if he was still with us. His condition is terminal and it was very > difficult standing near his side for the short period I visited him. The > nurse asked him if he recognized me and the only way she could get and > acknowledgement was to tell him to blink his eyes. He was able to do that, > but communication is impossible! I left the VA more depressed than my > previous visit and doubt I will return. > > I can only tell you he is still among the living, but his condition > is ever diminishing. For those of you who knew Tom well, I would not > recommend you visit him, but please keep him in your prayers. > > Sincerely, > > Gary Chudzinski > > > ------------------------------------ Yahoo! Groups Links <*> To visit your group on the web, go to: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/S-Scale/ <*> Your email settings: Individual Email | Traditional <*> To change settings online go to: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/S-Scale/join (Yahoo! ID required) <*> To change settings via email: [email protected] [email protected] <*> To unsubscribe from this group, send an email to: [email protected] <*> Your use of Yahoo! Groups is subject to: http://docs.yahoo.com/info/terms/
