Yes, FN. Its always a good idea to encourage discussion. I did try 😊
Dont mix "loneliness and alienation" with "Vocation". No one disagrees on the need for companionship and support for the wonderfully brave widows and widowers of Saligao. That's hardly for discussion. It's the word "vocation" that featured in the Report that needs clarification. You may know that up to the mid 20th century, catholic widows were often urged to retreat into complete social isolation, attend daily mass and absorb themselves (and their estates) completely into the church. Virginity and widowhood were considered convocationable. It took Pope Pius XII to proclaim that the widowed could remarry if they chose to. [https://www.catholicculture.org/culture/library/view.cfm?recnum=3042] That would be as recent as 1950. Despite asking, we dont know what attitude the church in Saligao has adopted. However, I am sure we all agree that our approach should be much more modern - encouraging integration and development while eschewing blame and exploitation (financial/physical/emotional and spiritual). Hence the 10 commandments of which I am justly proud. By all means choose a vocation, but vocations don't belong to the church alone, as we all know. Many thanks ________________________________ From: saligao-net@googlegroups.com <saligao-net@googlegroups.com> on behalf of Frederick FN Noronha * फ्रेड्रिक नोरोन्या * فريدريك نورونيا <fredericknoron...@gmail.com> Sent: 13 May 2017 11:54 To: saligaonet Subject: Re: Fwd: [SALIGAONET] Saligao widows share... (Orlinda Sequeira, Renewal) Dilip, What context does this come from? To my mind, many people (not just widows) in Goa are still grappling to battle loneliness and alienation, to find the support they need to carry on with life, and sometimes to make ends meet economically too. This is particularly true with people who have to earn local livelihoods, and do not have the benefits of expat incomes or pensions. I know of your experience as a consultant in emergency medicine and with the NHS Trust, but with due respect the priorities here could be different. Maybe the others with the experience could weigh in, into this discussion. FN On 13 May 2017 at 14:14, dilip dacruz <cruzmissil...@hotmail.com<mailto:cruzmissil...@hotmail.com>> wrote: * Don’t carry guilt. [Your spouses death is not your fault.] * You don’t have to do penance in order to atone for anyone. * Continue to live a happy, productive life. [Develop your interests and hobbies] * Feel free to socialise, travel and meet people. * Don’t allow people (or organisations) to exploit your vulnerability. [Applies to money, property, possessions, and your own body]. * Live a worthwhile life: Support your family. Support your community. * Keep occupied: teaching, cleaning, studying, writing stories, composing music……these are all vocations. * Dress exactly how you normally do. There are no restrictions. * Look after yourself - eat well and continue to maintain good health. * You have one life. Enjoy it! -- _/_/_/_/_/_/_/_/_/_/_/_/_/_/_/_/_/_/_/_/_/_/_/_/_/_/_/_/_/_/_/_/_/_/_/_/_/_/_/ _/ _/ Frederick Noronha http://about.me/noronhafrederick http://goa1556.in _/ P +91-832-2409490 M 9822122436 Twtr @fn Fbk: fredericknoronha _/ Goa,1556 shared audio content https://archive.org/details/goa1556 _/ _/_/_/_/_/_/_/_/_/_/_/_/_/_/_/_/_/_/_/_/_/_/_/_/_/_/_/_/_/_/_/_/_/_/_/_/_/_/_/ -- -- Saligao-Net is at http://groups.google.com/group/saligao-net To post to this group, send email to saligao-net@googlegroups.com To unsubscribe email saligao-net-unsubscr...@googlegroups.com --- You received this message because you are subscribed to the Google Groups "Saligao-Net" group. To unsubscribe from this group and stop receiving emails from it, send an email to saligao-net+unsubscr...@googlegroups.com<mailto:saligao-net+unsubscr...@googlegroups.com>. For more options, visit https://groups.google.com/d/optout. -- -- Saligao-Net is at http://groups.google.com/group/saligao-net To post to this group, send email to saligao-net@googlegroups.com To unsubscribe email saligao-net-unsubscr...@googlegroups.com --- You received this message because you are subscribed to the Google Groups "Saligao-Net" group. To unsubscribe from this group and stop receiving emails from it, send an email to saligao-net+unsubscr...@googlegroups.com. For more options, visit https://groups.google.com/d/optout.
