All this dialog can be summarized in one sentence: "Like begets like".
If someone says something negative about you the natural tendency is to return a negative. Now if this isn't done new light comes out. So if someone throws a 'dirty ball' at you, don't catch it, much less return it to the thrower. Anger is brought out through anger, kindness through kindness, respect through respect, gentleness through gentleness, love through love. Peace, folks, frank
